Need friends

What's your problem with sticking with them? Just share some activities and stuff. I'm not an expert on the matter but you become friends with people who share the same interests.

 

first of all I have to find out what I am truly interested in, then I can start finding a friend.

 

Or start talking to people and see if what they do is interesting to you.

 

Dude, that's terrible, and as you're so young (compared to me) any advice I give to you might seem kind of patronizing, BUT:

1) Essentially, if you want to make friends in the world, Get out there. Think about Stuff you're interested in (OK, activities that involve other people), and go and do it. Even if it seems artificial, maybe formally join a group of some kind. If you're interested in Chess - Join a community group that meets to play chess together. If you like Social, Computer- War simulation Gaming - Formally join a group that does that sort of thing. (I dunno, I'm 43 and I grew up with Space Invaders, Defender and the very early Nintendo single game monochrome LCD - double screens)
2) Try to let go of your expectations. I won't go into a philosophical discourse about why, but you've (initially at least) got to accept that the same shyness that might lead you to be a bit anti-social and without a network of friends is Shared by people with whom you've got a lot in common, and would be people who would share your life in an understanding and empathic way. Please don't think your situation is that unusual. There are times in all our lives that people don't seem to be present in our lives, making us doubt ourselves. Let go of your expectations of what you might think people are supposed to do and focus on the aspects of socialisation that you enjoy.
3) It takes time to Develop Trust between People - Be Patient. Along with letting go of your expectations for people's behaviour, most of the time, and depending on what you want from relationships with other people, Long term-Close friendships don't develop overnight, so let go of any expectations for a quick fix. My closest friends only became that way after knowing them for a couple of years at least.
4) Believe in Yourself. Keep yourself in High Esteem. Love yourself (Obviously, as we're here on NoFap, not in a physical fashion). This doesn't necessarily mean that you delude yourself that you are the coming messiah ('cause you're probably not). If you are a good person and want to be the best person you can possibly be in the future (self improvement), then be proud of the hurdles you've overcome. I'm an extremely socially anxious person and I find very basic breathing focus (meditation) helps that social anxiety enormously, even if it is only used in the moment....

I empathise with your sentiments Thunderhoof - Don't despair, get out there and participate.
Bruce.

 

I feel you. If youre shy like me, advice like "just get out there" is completely useless. Im shy so getting out there is the hard part. I did read a book that says making friends is just like dating. I find that to be true. I know a guy at my church who I felt comfortable sharing with and I just asked for his number and said I would like to talk sometime. It's been a slow process but he invited me out for coffee and we had a good time just getting to know eachother. We haven't hung out since that, but the seed has been planted. Take it slow.