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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ImposterDoctor, Dec 16, 2015.

  1. ImposterDoctor

    ImposterDoctor New Fapstronaut

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    Hello fapstronauts,I'm new to the forum. As you can see, I'm using an alias, for what I'm about to say has me in SHAAAAME. I have a big question that's been bugging me,and has made me relapse quite a few times. I'mseeing a contradiction - when you stop PMO Ihear you stop objectifying women,BUT - you get more easilaroused? - - I'll tell you about my relapse about a month ago. I was about a week in PMO free, then Isaw this girl I was aqainted with at a train station. She was wearing very revealing, slutty clothes and had an all around good body that I would normally go nuts for. Thing is, I wasn't aroused in the slightest - I thought for sure this was nofap benefits but now I'm not so sure. I was staring at her (with sunglasses hehe) and her curves and revealing features that would normally get to me had no effect. Happy about this, I continue to stare longer to see if it was the real deal. Unfortunately, it wasn't. While I was glad that I wasn't sexually attracted for that time being, I did end up getting an erection later on and went home to MO. That was the worst relapse period I've ever had and I'm still recovering. - - So...? That non-aroused feeling I got by seeing a super hot girl, were those the benefits of nofap, or does nofap make you even more aroused and out of control? A lot of the time when I relapse, I convince myself that I don't want to spend the rest of my life horny and become one of those fuckboys who go around at parties/gatherings feeling up every girl they can, taking what they can get. I would hate to become like that so sometimes I convince myself to PMO for balance. - - Basically I don't want to become one of those guys, as no one likes that guy and girls find it very obvious. I'm not gay or asexual, but I don't want to be obsessed with every girl either. Will nofap help me with this or make the problem worse? _ - Thanks in advance nofap bros :p sorry bout the essay I get carried away
     
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  2. taqwa

    taqwa Fapstronaut

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    Porn is toxic no doubt about it! It will lead to abnormal sexual desire. You will no longer be aroused by the "normal."

    MO is a bit more of a debate. I personally am against MO. It is destructive. Prolonged MO leads to decreased penile sensitivity. Further, it can lead to the inability to ejaculate naturally into the vagina. Also, the more you get into masturbation/pornography, the less interested you become in your partner. This can devastate your relationship with your significant other. For me, when life gets hectic, I used to MO for it was more convenient. Unfortunately, it took away my appetite for intimacy with my wife. What a tragedy. Now, I have to go to my wife when I get urges. I will find time no matter how busy. If you don't have a significant other, it is more difficult with regards to MO. Who knows what is the minimum amount of safe MO is? I am sure it varies among different people. I would limit it as much as possible. I wish you well on your journey. Stay strong! Win! Check out this post full of golden advice:

    http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/my-top-tips-for-leaving-pmo-behind.35201/
     
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  3. Jodokus

    Jodokus Fapstronaut

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    Hello Popovich, nice to meet you!
    Who knows? My idea is, you were'nt aroused cause you thought about the effects of nofap when you was checking her. You maybe got the idea "hey, I'm not aroused by her! Really? But she's gorgeous, I'll check her out more to see if I still not aroused." While actually not thinking of the girl (or what you could do with her) but about YOURSELF. So you didn't get aroused in the moment, but afterwards when you remembered her.
    But it could also be possible that the super-binging had nothing to do with the former situation, maybe it was just a new wave of sexual energy that flushed you away...
    Who can understand the mind?
    No, nofap get's you in control!
    But when you abstain urges can build up giving you a hard time. Oh yes, they will. But even more aroused? Aren't you sometimes incredible horny although you had an Orgasm some days ago? I think the longer you do nofap, the more days you will have without annoying cravings.

    Anyways, if you want to get in control stay with nofap!
     
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  4. potvis22

    potvis22 Fapstronaut

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    keep pressing on.
    Reset Reset Rest and afther 100+ times it will get better.
    I am still working so is 100% of all fappers.
     
  5. taqwa

    taqwa Fapstronaut

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    Agreed brother! Stay strong! Win!
     
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  6. in more ways then 1, for example, I mo so much, I have no interest in vagina, but i keep having 'gay' thoughts' looking at there crazy want adds, if you know what i mean. so this is why i really have to stop MO it will make me more internest in V in the first place.
     
  7. taqwa

    taqwa Fapstronaut

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    May you be given strength to be your best version! PMO took me to places in my mind that I never thought I would go to! I feel your pain brother. As I gave it up, my brain is finding more pleasure in "the normal." Stay strong brother! Win!
     

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