If you have time please help

I'm flabbergasted how your infatuation with K became even stronger once you learned of her sexual proclivities with fuckboy in the church garden - or whatever. Are you sure you're not secretly wanting to be a fuckboy yourself? Regardless, even if you were to leave your GF and go with K, it definitely would not last in my opinion - as she seems to be more of a rebel and into and after ever new experiences - some day you'll be old news and she'll move on, or be encouraged by other male friends at that time to drop you. You are also showing a certain dishonesty with your current GF, cheating and flirting behind her back. If you continue with such character development, GF will be dropping you, too, and rightly. In the end, you are all so young anyway, and none of these relationships will be steady or even existing in another year or two regardless of your choice. My advice to you is to practice being an upstanding guy now and looking for the kind of girl that you would similarly want to find as a future mate - get practiced now in the life of integrity that you want to find for yourself in all your tomorrows. Else, you'll be on here 5 and 10 and 15 and 20 years from now seeking advice of how to deal with varied superficial, codependent, and broken relationships that never seem to work out in your life. Like a magnet, you will draw to yourself the kind of women that match your own values and character. Get it right now, so that you will not have a life of regrets with future relationships.

 

My advice? Character matters most. Pick a girl who is upright, caring and steady, and be those things yourself. And, realize that at your age. You may have a lot of romances ahead of you.

Now, a question: what is a "f***boy"?

 

Anyone who's better looking than you

 

Women are programmed at the carnal level for the alpha male, as men are programmed for the (fertile/attractive) available female.

She likes the "fuckboy" because he has alpha qualities. On the conscious level, she knows what you told her is true (he will hurt her), but at the subconscious level, he's got the strong confident alpha qualities and she just can't help herself.

And for those who need a definition of "fuckboy", it is a boy with too many alpha traits and not enough beta traits.

I am not flabbergasted that the OP is more attracted to her now after finding out about their shenanigans in the garden. She is a female making herself very very available and that taps into the OP's carnal instincts.

It's just science. Simple.

Though we gentlemen belong to a higher order of males, the males of the future, and we are trying to transcend such carnal desires. And so, it is thus, that we shan't be temped my such debauched deeds.

 

I'm pretty sure there's a difference between a strong protective make with good genetics vs a complete asshole. Plus it could be the fact that this girl seems to be "easier" sexually (in his mind) because she gave a hand job near a church. You only like her because she's new and exciting, wait until you get older and realize the difference between your "fantasy girl" and who she actually is as a person (with issues, problems, baggage ect...). I understand you "feel" you like her more but it's infatuation. Clearly this girl isn't stable and you should focus on important things like school. And just break up with your girlfriend if you really feel this other person matters so much, it's not cool to string her along it'll hurt her more in the long run the longer you keep it going, let her be with someone who wants to be with her instead of a person going back and forth. I know it seems like a huge life crisis but it's not. When you're a teen even a small, tiny bump in life seems as if the sky was falling. Good luck! Stay strong. (sorry if I did sound harsh, I wish someone was honest with me when I was a teenager)

 

Get over yourself bro. Look at how you treat your current girlfriend. You are mistreating your current gf and will hurt her if she knew how you are flirting behind her back. Especially for months now.
You need to look at yourself before you go pointing your finger at other dudes and pretend like you are just this white knight who will treat a girl the way she "deserves"
1) stop being a douche and have some respect for your girlfriend
2) if you can't stop being a douche, break up with her.
You are young and learning I understand that. Good luck

 

Stick with what you have. Seems to me the gamble you want to take isn't worth it. Besides, would you really want to take a risk like that?

 

Those are golden words you said there.

 

Why would you go with a girl whos fucking another dude when you already have a girlfriend. She will just dump you later when she finds another guy. Stick with your girlfriend bro and stop cheating on her.

 

buuurn.

But seriously, that was a very childish thing you did...

 

You won't be happier than you are now. Happiness is not determined by the girl you are together with, it is a state of mind. It comes from within. I would even say that you either are happy or you aren't, there isn't much inbetween. Thus, it is not measurable in terms of 'happier/less happy', and so on.

If your current relationship sucked for a good reason, it might be different. But as you describe it, this isn't the case. Your girlfriend sounds pretty much perfect to me.

If you can't value the relationship you have now, you will have the same issue in your next relationship. Learn to be grateful for the love you are receiving, learn to give love in return and not flirt with another girl behind your girlfriend's back. Then you will be happy.

 

But seriously, I'm sick of "fuckboy fuckboy dudebro" rants every other day. And just because that girl gave some guy a handjob behind a church doesn't mean she'll ever give OP one so I don't know why he wants her so bad.

 

I think it would be better if you just keep K away and hang out with your girl friend. From the things that you have said about your girlfriend I think she doesn't deserve to be cheated on. I partially agree with some fapstronauts who have replied here. If K does not value her self and let's her self hang out with someone who disrespect her, how can you think that she will stay with you? My advice is, don't do this to your self and don't do this to your girl friend. There are people out there who are waiting for true love to happen for them and the way I see it, you're playing around with it.