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Advice for Fetishes?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SilverRogue, Dec 24, 2015.

  1. SilverRogue

    SilverRogue Fapstronaut

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    I have for a few years had a mild foot fetish, but as I grow into my sexuality (just turned 18) it's only getting worse. I find it very hard to fight the urge to masturbate when any picture I see with bare feet in it or when I see my girl friends at school in flip flops it intensely turns me on, especially during streaks. Does anyone have any advice on subduing those urges? I honestly don't hate the fetish and maybe someday it will make my marriage interesting but for right now while trying to abstain from masturbation, I need to be able to beat it somehow.
     
  2. jobokid

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    I'm no expert but to be attracted to feet is ok, just keep abstaining from porn to make sure it's not a habit induced by a porn fetish. If it's something you genuinely like I'm not so sure it so bad.
     
  3. WarriorScarr

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    I deal with it by just letting it pass. Since a kid I always had a little female foot fetish myself so I feel you.

    Just let the urge pass. See it for what it is but you don't have to act on it. It's tough but that's how I've been dealing with it on nofap.
     
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  4. All Married

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  5. PSychoSexy

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    Man, I clicked this link since I am struggling with a really bad fetish. I don't know how to put it in words so let's say that I struggle with a very bad fetish. You, on the other hand, as you have acknowledge it yourself, don't suffer from your fetish as in you don't feel any remorse for liking it, like you don't feel it's something that isn't in your nature. Now, I don't really know much about what is your fetish like, but getting aroused with woman's body parts shouldn't be called fetish imho. I think people who aren't turned on by women's more delicate futures such as feet, legs, hands, fingers, belly, neck and etc. are a little bit prude. Of course, if you are focusing too much on one of futures to the extend that it becomes an obsession, it might be problematic. In your case, I think you are struggling too much with it because you call it a fetish and make it seem to be taboo, which really is not like that. I guess it's only specified as fetish because it's sexual attraction to a body part that happens not to be a genital. It's the most common fetish so you know.

    So what my advice would be is to get rid of the guilt you have because it's not helping you at all. In your case, you can't change the environment around you so you can avoid it all together, so it's better for you not to be ashamed of it and maybe you won't be so much focused on it anymore. It's just an appreciation of woman's body and should be viewed as getting aroused when looking at the breasts or buttocks.
     
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  6. SilverRogue

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    Thanks for the helpful replies! Psycho I would love to discuss this more with you if you'd feel comfortable. Either direct message me or kik me at aking85. You talked about me not being ashamed of it which I would say was definitely not true for a very long time. I hid it for years and still do try to keep it a secret as best as I can but I have told a few people; which has actually let me accept it a little more. Only recently have I come to accept that it's who I am and that I'm only fighting myself if I try to fight it which isn't helpful for anyone. My problem now is that it very much interferes with my rebooting process because they aren't a hidden body part.
     

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