Anyone please

i feel huge urge by day 2 onwards,dont even mention day 7

 

Same here for me, right now my goal is to go two weeks no m. It's hard, especially when you've done it for years, the key is to just learn to fight the urges when they hit and to look at this from the big picture. That's hard when we've been using pmo to achieve instant gratification. Part of this process is learning that we can't take the easy way out anymore, we have to fight the good fight if we are to change our lives.

It's not easy but anything worth fighting for isn't.

 

i actually wanna do it till march 27 not even edging

 

just keep on trying.. u really had no idea how many times we all fall and get up and trying again and again... i have relapse countless of time for past few years... my best record was 120days in 2012.. now Im still moving on.. trust me, PMO is worthless and useless.. it will damage ur brain eventually until it makes life feel sucks.. my advice, be strong, keep moving on...

 

bro whatever u said is absolutely right,word to word correct but how to do it,how to be strong

 

first u must identify when is the time when you usually relapse.. before sleep ? when u boring ? in bathroom ? when u r alone ? when u watch movie ? then find a solution and steps to overcome it based on ur situation.. in my case, i usually relapse before i sleep.. because i cant sleep, so i MO and fall asleep... to overcome that, what i did is, i dont go to bed unless i feel really sleepy.. i make myself tired for the whole day like everyday i either go to gym, jogging, hiking, dance.. if i still dont feel tired, i do some cleaning and cook for myself.. reading might help too... goodluck!

 

what happens is i feel to miss MO very badly hence i cant handle the vaccum it creates in my life after 7 days so thats the tough part which i cant handle and i dont know how to make a solution to completely avoid it

 

I don't think you can completely avoid it. Sex is everywhere and there are so many triggers and temptations in our faces everyday. The urges won't go away for a long time or perhaps never. Your biggest ally is acknowledgement and awareness. Be prepared by keeping simple games on your phone or watch cute kitten videos or whatever it takes to replace the urges. When I get that urge I do something mindless like the things I mentioned above. I pat myself on the back and even reward myself w a Starbucks, maybe buy something I wouldn't normally get. It's very similar to potty training a toddler. I hate to compare us to toddlers but a reward system works well if you're disciplined enough to utilize it to its fullest potential. You could also rely on a accountability partner. I haven't gotten one yet but I heard it can work for some people. Plus you could also be helping someone else out who may be in a far worse place. I wish luck in your NoFap journey.

 

i slap myself very hard when i feel the temptation

 

This happens because dopamine go to normal levels after 12 -15 days ! At 7 -8 days are the peak days witch our mind want to find dopamine and give us images and fantasies to make us to go to porn and take then dopamine and just relapse!