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Newbie determined to take control over this cr*@

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by fred fatset, Dec 27, 2015.

  1. fred fatset

    fred fatset New Fapstronaut

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    Hi Fred here

    I've finally recognised that I need to approach kicking this crappy online porn habit that brings me down in a systematic way with the support of others.

    I've read about some brain training methods to rewire my brain and am keen to start putting them to use.

    I'm not a heavy user and tend to soft stuff but it's been important for me to accept that I do have a problem as many times I've told myself I'd stop and yet have relapsed. So yes I must face up to my current weakness and try my best to deal with it.

    I want to go for the 90 day no PM challenge and see how I manage.

    I've got a good life and a wonderful wife and kids and want to get rid of this shadow forever.

    I'm going to try to pluck up the courage to tell my wife that I've relapsed but am now REALLY going to try to deal with it, so I can feel honest again and work on it together. I think that's the best way, even if it will initially be painful.

    Thanks for any support that comes my way.

    Love from Fred
     
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  2. All Married

    All Married Fapstronaut

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  3. PatentPending

    PatentPending Fapstronaut

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    Hi Fred,

    Although I'm just a single guy, I can relate to the shame it causes when you P and M when you have a wife. I felt the same with my ex girlfriends and believe that my last relation went down the drain due to P.

    It is important that you have your own reasons to stop P&M and it might even be easier to take full responsibility for your own actions if you do not tell your lady, but I don't have any experience with that :confused:. At least, I'm proud you decided to really accept this problem and are looking for ways to tackle this problem head on.

    Good luck!!!
     
  4. fred fatset

    fred fatset New Fapstronaut

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    Cheers mate

    I told my wife and she was entirely understanding and supportive so onwards and upwards. I'd recommend sharing with your loved one if that situation arises as I found it vital that I can look her in the eye and not have secrets. We're in this together to get us both out of this trap albeit that the onus is on me.

    Peace and good luck in your own journey.

    Fred
     
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