Feeling Down... Need some support

Hey man, I'm definitely not a veteran or anything, but I'll through in my too-sense. I, too, am super sensitive to ANYTHING "sexual". I got a few light boners today studying the Portuguese Empire-- like whaaaa? All I know is it is impossible for me to PMO without (a) touching myself, or (b) mentally going to town, fantasizing. I get your frustration... I'd be curious to know, also, if this ever subsides. One trick that works for me every time: do the hardest math problem you can think of in your head. Really think about it you know... It has saved me in public once or twice haha. I hope you feel better soon.

 

Good question!

Squaky soul, when looking at your brother, you have to see him and not all he can do, especially PMO. He is still your brother, for sure a brither in need, but your brother like all of us. Could you talk to him?

About the hypersensitivity, I have a few clues. For me, praising (I am Christian) helps a lot because I think it must release a lot of dopamine! Or listening to music I like a lot, the 80's or 90's, because I like it a lot and I feel full of joy. I do not know if it can help you.

Take care bro' and I am really glad you faced temptation so good.

 

Just hang in there! It will get better I/we promise. It won't be easy at first, that's part of the recovery but the benefits are amazing. If you're like me, it's been so long since you were getting dopamine from normal day to day pleasures that you forget what it's like.

Just don't use porn or any sexually charged images or video (even a fully dressed girl if you're looking at her for sexual reasons) and you'll begin to heal in amazing ways.

Press on regardless,

SkyNet

 

Hi, squeaky. When I'm feeling down I call a friend, and even if we don't talk about my feelings, we have a good conversation and some laughs, and I feel much better right away.

 

You should talk to your brother, explain to him how you're feeling better and tell him how much porn is destructive. Im a lot sensitive now to sexual toughts/images too but it is completely normal i have been for years a porn addict, im beeing dating a girl and it is really hard to hide my boners (im always with my hands in the pocket of my pants haha). When im feeling down i try to do some exercises or go for a walk it is really good and help you clear your toughts.

God bless!

 

I dunno whether talking to your bro will be such a great idea. Depends on your relationship. He might get embarrassed and feel ashamed (assuming you're his big brother too?) and that's not a great way to start quitting in my opinion.

 

Oh, sorry didn't answer the actual Qs.

if you feel sad about your brother, I'd say don't. The reason being that nofap is a personal choice, and it's a personal challenge that you set yourself to test yourself and understand yourself - thats the whole point as far as I can see. There's no point trying to make other people nofap. Since then they won't be challenging themselves, but doing it for you instead. You can support them but if they don't want to do it, not your place to tell them.