What am I doing with my life?

Hey XpzXp!
I have very similar experiences from my first day of NoFap and I think that such phase is normal but it shouldn't last too long. I understand your frustration but remember that it will soon disappear and you will feel much better - you will be able to think clearly and focus better not only on your homework but anything that requires your attention.
Stay strong!

 

Try not to make girls your priority, bro. I know it's difficult, but if you sit down and think about it, this is probably the reason for your frustration. What happens if you don't have sex for another 7 months, a year, two years...? Of course, I hope for yourself that this doesn't happen and that you experience the wonders of making love to a girl who you care about and cares for you too, but I encourage you to place the life of semen retention and reprogramming your brain as number one priority.

Right now, you're setting foundations for yourself as a man. You're embarking on a great journey through retaining your semen. When a man sets goals for himself, that should be his priority. Let women and dating be secondary. Put your goals and personal desires first. The rest will follow. I promise you, once you walk around with this air of power and confidence, women will notice you anyway and see a man who has his affairs in order.

Sex and relationships are not the be all and end all. Don't get me wrong. Having a girlfriend can be a lovely thing, but we can't let ourselves be a slave to it. This is a common trend in Western society.
Set your affairs in order and put your own desires first. In fact, I'd even go as far saying - let women come to you. There's nothing to even be desperate for. You've got everything you need within yourself already.

When I was 15, I was talking to girls, just approaching them when I wanted, didn't care if I got rejected or not, and that's why I had many girlfriends. If you're not going to be bold and just do what is your birthright to do anyway, don't do anything then. It's not a big deal whatever you decide to do in this situation. The key is just not to care about it.

I've learned over the years to become more one with myself. I don't have a problem getting dates, however, I'm just no longer bothered about whether I'm single or not. I really don't care. We spend so much time thinking about this. Life is vast. There's so much other great things we can be doing. Enjoy the great amount of pleasures in life. Semen retention is one of them.

 

Be the boy at school who stands out from the crowd and becomes a man by controlling his sexuality. Think what a girl would want... a guy who faps his life away at every sex scene he sees on a screen or to every thought in his head or a guy who has respect for himself by controlling himself in a an over sexualised society where the majority would fail.... you would succeed.

 

I know your going through a tough time when I was 15 I felt the same way I didn't get a girlfriend until I was 19. I was super depressed when I was 15 wondering if I was ever going to meet someone. My lack of of confidence was the reason why I didn't get a girl till 19. But my friend my advice to you is do the things your passionate about. that will def ease the bordom and depression. Use that motivation of not masterbating and getting better to find a girl. Maybe girls from the other highschool areas in your town ? Or try meeting girls on Facebook or Instagram even. The one thing I want to leave you with is don't beat your self up to much tons of guys like myself were in the same shoes as you are in now. so you don't have to feel alone in this

i know

 

Very well said I enjoyed what you wrote

 

Hey man I'm 17, and I've never had a girlfriend or ever been kissed and I basically never talk to girls as I go to an all boys school. Sometimes I feel like I am behind but then after a little while I forget about it because it isn't some super important part of my life and I don't and shouldn't place my self worth in it. Place your self worth in things which are in your control, and that means being better than you were a month or a year ago because everything else has external factors which you can't control.
Please don't waste your time worrying about this, I know it's easier said than done but fretting over this will achieve nothing and only add anxiety and sadness to your life and you will regret the wasted hours.

Also you are about to be 16. My advice to use is to learn to be happy with yourself and above all spend your time either learning a new skill such as programming(if you envision yourself in a career which involves it) or another language(always a good skill to have) or an instrument or photography or drawing(also an amazing skill to have) or math. Learning a new skill will help give you confidence, allow you to meet new people and explore you interest and can help with jobs or college applications in the future. And if you don't want to these then please read everyday, even just a few pages. Read whatever book you want but the classics are a great choice and you will learn a lot from them about many things.

"never give up on a dream because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway" I read this quote a while ago but it always stuck with me because I would always start something then give up, and then a few months later I would come back to it and regret having done so, imagining what I could have achieved if I stuck with it.

People like you and me are very lucky because we are young and we have so much potential for our futures, you especially as you are probably only in 10th grade. If you apply yourself you could get into an amazing college/university or learn amazing skills and really set yourself up for the future and I doubt you would regret the time spent developing that skill. Please don't waste too much time on youtube or reddit or gaming or facebook, instead do productive things which add true value to your life and allow you to become a more well rounded person.

Also be a good person. Be humble, helpful and friendly to everyone if you're not already doing that.

Best of luck with everything and don't let it bother you too much