Wife doesn't have goals

Keep working on yourself...When she notices your efforts, she will come around. It has to be her choice, not yours. Be gentle, No judgement, NO criticizing. Gentleness and love!! I can't stress the importance of being understanding. Overlook her small issues and focus deeply on the things you love about her. When she feels that you adore her, she will adore you again! It takes work my friend. Weeds in a garden. If you don't take out those few weeds, they will suffocate the garden. I wish you and your wife much success. Stay strong! Win!

 

You are most welcome brother. I did the exact same thing. Once I got out of myself and started having a little more empathy, magical things began to happen. She will surprise you. Also, when you focus on her good qualities, it will instill more gratitude in your heart. More gratitude = more happiness. What is stress/anxiety? When what you expect is different from reality. Don't resist what is. This does not mean to not try to improve. Learn to live more in the present and see things as they are. I guarantee, if you do this, you will be a happy man!

 

Shouldn't you have asked these type of questions before you got married....?

 

Despite the best of questions and intentions, there is one reality: We change, We Evolve!

 

That is the spirit brother! You are quick learner...I see much success in your future God willing!

 

Drive towards goals is a very masculine endeavor and clearly your wife is not masculine! In our society we place value on masculine traits like drive and ambition and so as a woman you can feel "lazy" if you are very feminine because you don't naturally feel that way. Of course there are lots of masculine women but it doesn't sound like you are married to one. I would try to accept her for the feminine woman she is and look at her good feminine qualities. Is she caring and nurturing for example. As a masculine man it is your duty to have the drive and ambition and steer your family in the right direction.

 

Well said! That was profound and deeply insightful! May you and your family have much success. Please keep sharing from that wonderful brain and heart of yours! God bless. Stay strong! Win!

 

Read "the way of the superior man" great insights on women as well, if she has a more feminine core then love is more important to her than goals and taking action and wanting to achieve something big in life. Don't assume women are the save as men also.