Close to first relapse!

Congrats on not relapsing. When i sit before laptop and the urge comes, i come to this website. do simple stuff, solve simple riddles. chat with forumites here. it helps. and then the urge to watch porn isnt strong anymore.

 

Im proud of you for not giving in Evo. We can only keep fighting this bad habit. Im sitting here on my laptop and had a urge to open up a tab... Hell no! Stringer than that. Keep strong Evo.

 

If you have the temptation, please do 50 pushups... you will forget about relapsing ...

 

sincerest congratulations! overcoming an urge is an incredible boost for your self-confidence.

every time you manage to do so, you are growing.

 

No problem man!

 

What you did is really difficult : you put back thinking in a completely automated process.
That's huge, and you have every right to be proud.
It seems like you don't have a porn filter : maybe you could use one.
Having a plan when you feel an urge is really important, because it helps you to get over the routine part of the habit (like 50 pushups : mine is 10 pushups and drink cold water).

 

Yes absolutely. In the moment the urge comes, it clogs up your whole brain and you forget all your previous plans.

BTW, a very simple method is to say loudly "STOP" and to clap your hands! That interrupts your routine, like waking up a sleeping person, and you return back to reality.

 

That's a very good description of what an urge feels like. It doesn't creep up but - WHAM - like you say: 'A ton of bricks'.

 

I have been on NoFap since last summer. Sometimes PMO thoughts never enter my head. Sometimes they do and are difficult to shake off. Just the other day, I veered DANGEROUSLY close to PMO-ing. Although I have my counter here on NoFap, I actually use a calendar with a 'traffic light' system, and so I have to give myself a 'yellow' day for having gone and looked. I'm not sure if it would have gone further, but the urge was sudden and felt like mind control.
I also feel that this situation arose owing to a few other things that were linked to PMO in the past - e.g. being alone, prevaricating/time-wasting, having had a few beers [a rare thing for me these days]. A sort of perfect storm, and it made me think that 'relapse' is really a fall back to an old/unwanted personality, rather than PMO alone.

 

@Evo Haha LOL But great it worked! And normally, if your mom knocked at the door, you would have also stopped. But in this case, it was you who made the initiative!

BTW, it also works to think like "OK, urge, give me 5 minutes". Then just relax, close your eyes, wait and let your thoughts go by. Like clouds on the sky. And within a very few minutes, you will see, the urge is gone, like it never was there! You have forgotten it and you feel strong again!

Urges are like ghosts, like projections on the wall, but still we tend to be scared of them and to act like slaves of them.