How Do I Stop Failing? Religious Question?

Start by being desperate to get rid of it. The first and most important one. For that you will need absolute acceptance of who you are, in this moment. Then , all issues will surface in their own time. You won't have have to go find looking for them

 

And to remind you, its definitely not easy, nor will it get easier any time soon. That being said, fuck you porn! You are in the past. There are successful stories here, read the journals of cud, earth dragon, the mickster, and join the group named heirs of the sun.. It'll be super helpful.I promise you that You'll get better, be patient

 

Hmm.. I understand, but I can't say I totally empathise with you. I haven't been through it, so please forgive me.
But look at the bright side. You already see porn as a cultivation, not an essence. Took many us years to get there, before they finally reached out.
The best I can say is that there is no running from truth. It will haunt you until you accept it and change it.so accept it. Rest, one step at a time, sister. Rome wasn't built in a day. You could start by quitting pmo. You got this! I trust you!
You stepped up for others, now step up for yourself. Its ugly, not unbeatable.
You're the MANNN! or I should say YOU GO GURRLLLLLL!!!!

 

Read everything you can on addiction and I won't say this is the place to pour out everything you have inside. Your decision. But this is definitely a place to get better

 

And there is a women's forum here. They'll love you I'm sure..

 

Hi, HelpIsOnTheWay, thanks for sharing - it takes courage - and sorry to hear about your struggles. I wanted to recommend a book that you may find encouraging: Delivered by Matt Fradd. There are testimonials by women as well as men and you may find it helpful and healing as it addresses things like the religious shame you've mentioned. I'd love to hear if you get it and what you think. It has helped me and I hope it helps you!

 

You're not alone. I'm in the same boat. Fail, reset, fail, reset, fail....don't stop resetting.

 

That's a good starting point. In fact, you are using porn to escape from negative emotions.

As another very good starting point, I recommend you to take a piece of paper and a pencil, and write down (with your hands!):

• What is at least one goal for 2016? Write down a very precise picture of one goal you want to reach this year. Like making an exam, finishing a project, recording an album, ...
  
• How do you want to reach this goal? Write down a specific plan.
  
• What are your fears? Write down specific situations which are making you frightened, and which you are avoiding.

It is important that you are very precise, and that you write with hand, and possible even speak it aloud.
The idea is to get your goals and fears very clear upfront to you. Only when you brain has them near, you can work on them.

 

This link told me everything I needed to know to fight addiction. Read it and see if it helps http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0
It's about making changes. Making real changes and doing much more than just avoiding porn.
Good luck.

 

Another good resource I stumbled upon: purityispossible.com.

 

I once asked someone, "Why am I so weak?"

Their answer was so simple, yet so profound, "...it is because you accepted your weakness."

If you have to ask how do I stop failing, I feel like it is because you accepted your failure.

I tend to not tell people to stay strong, because you know what, you are strong. From a Biblical standpoint, when you accepted Christ, he gave you everything He is. Including His strength. Is He strong enough to overcome this addiction? (Rhetorical question )

HelpIsOnTheWay, you are a beautiful person, you have the strength, you need to decide (become desperate) to use it.

BTW: I apologize if this seems harsh, but to me, it was a word of encouragement, it was eye opening.