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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by las59036, Jan 28, 2016.

  1. las59036

    las59036 Fapstronaut

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    Please everyone read and help asap. - Your Brain Rebalanced
    First post

    A quick summary. I'm 20 and a Virgin discovered my problem a year ago at 19 and found the forums. Start my reboot and go through replaces and long streaks. I am now on a huge streak of 8 or 9 months.

    • Now some details of this big streak and it's still ongoing !


      Was in flatline for a few months and came out of it for a few days so I was feeling really alive and Masturbated once somewhere towards the lower end of the middle of this streak with no porn. I just Focused on pleasure and it felt great. It seems that I would come in and out of the flatline for some time even after the o. Then I hit a long period of straight flatline until maybe the last few weeks to a month. I felt a little life. I decided to try to start rewiring. I started meeting girls and would cuddle and kiss and am currently still doing this. After a few times I feel as if my flatline is ending for a few reasons. Sensitivity has returned on a great scale. All day I feel very tingly in my balls and prostate and sometimes in my penis. Touching my balls or penis in anyway possible clothes on or not starts to get me aroused and I feel like I will cum at any second. It feels so amazing and I cannot believe I made it to this point. I have desires to talk and meet girls now in my mind and physically. I am also responding well to cuddling and kissing. I went from having no erections from cuddling to gradually getting stronger. Just last week I cuddled again and got almost a full erection just from cuddling. ALSO a big note and change! That last cuddle session and kissing was the FIRST time I was actually nervous and had a noticeably faster heart rate when getting intamate with a girl! This excites me a lot. In the beginning of the rewiring semen leakage was unbelievable from being around girls and cuddling or even just texting. Now that has almost ceased. I still leak at times from using the bathroom but not like I used too.
      Little morning wood but I do wake up to an alarm every day which I hear kills morning wood. I am so tingly down there that I feel as if I even just massage a little, I will explode. And I constantly at times just feel I could orgasm at any point from doing nothing ! Not sure if this is me just being jorny and sensitive or something else.


      Now to today:
      I'm still cuddling and rewiring when I can for the past month and a half. I met a girl and she wants to have sex very soon. What do I do? I need all the help I can get so please assist me in every way pos
     
  2. las59036

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    Thanks for replying! Do you think I am ready after all of this time and what else should I focus on ?
     
  3. las59036

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    I'm just scared that it may send me back into flatline or halt my progress
     
  4. las59036

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    Thanks a lot for responding. It means a lot.
     
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  5. Keemo

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    First of all, happy for you mate and congrats on the transformation.

    My advice would be to just go with the flow and if something ever goes wrong just be completely honest with the girl and be COOL about it. Remember that what you are doing is honorable and brave, so if she is worthy she will see those qualities and not only understand you, but even be more attracted to you.

    Reference: personal experience.
     
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  6. las59036

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    Do you think I'm ready to have sex and not stall my progress ? Or even go back into flatline ? This is going to be the 9th month straight. Believe me with my motivation right now I will never see porn again. Obviously I'm going to last less than 3 seconds LOL. Could i possibly masturbate before and then have sex so I last longer or should I just get it over with and attempt a second time with her in the same day. I am going to tell her a little do she understands why I won't last long.
     
  7. las59036

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    I hate this mess I'm in lol. I need guidance
     
  8. Cyrus the Virus

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    Honestly, I don't see a problem here at all. Things seem to be going great for you.
     
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  9. las59036

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    What should my next step be ? Do you think having sex with her will stall my reboot and put me in flatline ? The way I feel down there Is just unbelievable. Give me some insight !
     
  10. Cyrus the Virus

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    Well nobody can say for sure. It may be a slight "risk" you have to take, to see for yourself. I can only imagine that having sex with woman you care for is nothing but healthy after an eight month long reboot. This is partly why you started your reboot, isn't it?
     
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  11. las59036

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    Well I started because I had pied. There was a girl that I cared for and I first discovered it after failing with her several times. So we broke it off. That was a year ago. I for the past month and a half have been rewiring with several girls. I would cuddle and kiss and touch and smell. Last week I cuddled with a girl and I got almost fully erect from cuddling and kissing. It felt amazing and it was the first time that I have ever felt nervous again about kissing a girl and getting close. It felt amazing. I'm just afraid that I will either experience pied again if I attempt to have sex. Or I will be knocked back into a flatline again. This is month 9 coming up and I would be very mad if i damaged my streak with this. I made too much progress to throw away
     
  12. Cyrus the Virus

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    What I said still applies. The only way to find out is to try. You can either wait longer or go for it.
    I understand it's scary. I currently do not have any potential sexual partners, but I can tell you for sure I will be scared as hell that my reboot did not work when the time comes, and I've almost gone 10 months.
     
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  13. las59036

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    How are you feeling after the 10 months ?
     
  14. Cyrus the Virus

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    I have never had sex, so I don't really have a frame of reference of how I'm "supposed" to feel or function in a sexual scenario with a partner. I am very hopeful that things will work as they are supposed to. From what I can tell my reboot and abstinence from pornography has caused my sexual functionality to improve significantly (hopefully exactly as they should be). I have no reason to think things will not function correctly with a partner but ultimately I do not know for sure. I am very nervous but excited to try things out when the time comes. And mentally speaking, I'm thrilled to have PMO out of my life for the past 10 months.
     
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  15. las59036

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    Sounds like we're in the same scenario. Have you orgasmed at all during reboot ? I feel that that's so important not to do. I feel as if I'm ready because of how I feel down there. All day it literally feels like I'm going to explode
     
  16. Keemo

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    I think that you are ready to have sex as long as you are able to communicate with your girl. It took me several weeks with my ex to reboot and cure my delayed ejaculation. I simply explained to her my situation the first night we slept together, and she did not mind it at all. So do not worry, as long as you are upfront and honest, things will work out just fine. Hope this helps.
     
  17. las59036

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    Well I'm not sure how old you are but based on my experience with attempting to tell girls my age... They don't really wanna hear that and just get creeped out over it lol. I have something else that I am going to say but I just don't want to have any set backs. This was and still is very hard work
     
  18. Cyrus the Virus

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    I MO'd a few times just after 9 months. I was feeling like I was going to explode as well. It may have eased things a little bit, mainly by helping me to realize that physical feeling I was experiencing was not an "imminent ejaculation" like it thought. I realized later it was that after 9 months my body and mind were dying for a sexual release. In my case I had no partner or prospects to share a release with, so I chose to MO. Pornography was not involved at all, and I am happy about that. My equipment seemed to respond well in a pornography-free environment, and that is my only piece of evidence that things will hopefully function during the real thing (fingers crossed). Soon after I chose to not MO again.

    Based on my experience and feelings of "imminent ejaculation" around 9 months, I am thinking that you may feel this way because your mind is on this girl you are seeing and possibility of sex in the near future. This is completely normal and healthy. It is my thinking that after 8-9 months of (hard mode) rebooting the mind and body begin to strongly desire a sexual release. It may be that this is a sign of a successful reboot? We are human and sexual beings, we can only go long without these acting on these desires (hopefully in healthy way as your scenario seems to be).
     
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  19. Cyrus the Virus

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    No offense intended, but teenagers (or college aged) can be very immature when it comes to these things, unless they have experienced these problems for themselves. It's never fun when a girl thinks you are a creep but that just means she was probably too immature for you anyway.
     
  20. las59036

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    Thanks for replying with all of that. And yes that feeling of immenint ejactualation is very strong. For example last night I was texting the girl and just talking about being close and kissing .. Not even sex seemed like it was going to make me release. I act silly went and got something cold to put down there too ease that tension LOL. I will not mo no matter what happens. If she decides to leave before we even have sex I still will not mo. My will power is very strong now. Did those mo's that you had after the 9 months put you back into flatline ???
     
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