Feeling like a cop out at the gym

Its hard to approach a girl in the gym, i have had it several times that girls are looking at me but i will never approach because there are a lot of people around there.
If i approach and i fuck it up than everyone will see it, that is the main reason i will not approach girls in the gym.
And the fact that you will see the girl more than one time at the gym which would give a awkward situation.

 

Rejection is part of the game and it feels awful, but you will have 100% rejection if you never make the approach.

Approaching a girl in the gym with others around is hard, but not approaching her is harder in the long run. Growth comes when you get outside your comfort zone. Be scared on the inside, but push yourself to do it.
Good luck, it takes guts, but you can do it.

 

I think its also hard to get a conversation going with a girl and eventually you want her number.
And she is like wtf..... i thought we were only friends.

 

Hell is to easy for me because my family runs a gym and I approach any girl for the sake of reviews. Lol.

 

Yeah @Gaston, you're right bro

 

Nice bro, can't wait to get the results myself, did you approach the girls in the gym?

 

In college, I noticed that simply not shaving in the morning made it at least 50% more likely that a random girl would sit down across from me in the dining hall. And that was in spite of being a dessicated shell of a man trapped in a cycle of PMO.

 

No reason to feel like a copout for not acting on what you think you're "supposed" to do when you were at the gym, bro. Honestly man, depending on where you're from, being that guy who is trying to pickup girls in the gym is kinda juvenile, and unless your game is 100% spot on perfect (and if it is, SWEET!) then you're more likely to just be frowned upon down the road than you are to get numbers/dates. Then you run the risk of developing the reputation of being that guy; girls talk. Don't shit where you eat. If that's your local regular gym, run your game somewhere else.

Ultimately, you're at the gym to work out. If you go there with even the slightest intention to pickup girls, then they will sense that, because you're not being true to yourself. A gym isn't the venue for pickup man. If you happen to meet a girl there by chance, then fuckin' rock on bro. But go there to workout, and focus; just like you did. You didn't cop out, you did what you were supposed to do. Trust me, you're building more cred there for next time. That way, if a girl does come up and seem like she's interested in you talking to her, you can go ahead and start chatting with her, and before you know it, you've got a date lined up.

Most important thing is do what you FEEL is right. If you don't have any concrete feeling about what's truly YOU, then make THAT your priority. You can't pickup girls if you don't know how to stay true to yourself. Don't worry about what you think you're "supposed" to do in a given situation. Do what FEELs right. You're on the right path bro, keep it going, and get shredded! Find yourself, and the girls will find YOU. Peace.

 

Right on, bro. That's the best attitude to have. Go there to woodshed and make a better version of yourself. If girls are diggin' you, then sweet! If they're not, still awesome, because you're still making a better you. It's a win/win!

 

I agree with the opinion that gym is a place to work out, not hit on girls. Nothing wrong with talking to them, but as it has been pointed out, you don't want to come off as "that guy".

Definitely work on approaching in public, I used to do it and it's great. I need to work on it too, haven't approached i girl like that in 1 year.

 

Hell yeah dudes! Approaching during the day, on the street, is the way to go; as long as you are respectful and aware of the fact that she's probably been hit on 200 times that day already. Trust me; the best thing that ever happened to my game, was to stop thinking about it altogether. When I began focusing on myself, and my own success, and my own self-excellence, the girls just come into my vicinity on their own. If you're sincerely not looking for anything, they will look for you. Focus on yourself- be your best self. You're already doing great, man. Keep it going strong.

 

Haha! You don't need a life coach man, least of all me! You are your own best coach. If what I'm saying resonates with you, then it means you already have ability to direct yourself because you recognize for yourself what the right path is. You know what is good and what is right for you; that knowledge is already inside of your own mind, homie. You just gotta tap into it. And you gotta surround yourself with strong, good men who will emotionally kick your ass from time to time and hold you accountable. Every man needs these kinds of friends and role models. Look up to good people who do good things, and who are always true to themselves, and their own personal excellence, and strive to find that Superior version of yourself inside of you. He's in there.

I have a long way to go myself, we're all on the path bro. Take everything I say with a grain of salt, same for what everyone else says. You know your own truth!

 

Da**, I'm on day 18 and still nothing like you mentionned. I can't wait for girls to start doing this to me, it will be like in a dream!