Should I shut off my counter?

Deleted Account · Feb 1, 2016

I'm done with PMO forever. What a waste of age 16(even though I got laid that year)-23 and then off and on from 23-26. However, I had envisioned leaving my counter on until day 365 since that's symbolically one full year. I guess I'll still remember that occurs on March 27th. Today was day 310.

Lately I've been thinking about how I frame things. I used to improve myself for the sake of improving myself, to become fucking awesome. Now with NoFap as well as other things I'm trying to do with my life, it seems like I almost always frame it as reaching some goal that I'm below and once I rise up to it I will be an adequate human being.

I want to read some of your opinions, but right now I'm leaning towards shutting off my counter. By adding the +1 day each day, it's still just looking back a different distance and remembering where I was and feeling like I need to recover. Sure, nothing is perfect right now, and we all know the story on "perfection" anyway. But the point is that I've already convinced myself that there is no good to come from PMO, pun fully intended.

Today I had raging sexual urges. When they got out of hand I just thought to myself, "god damnit, where's a girlfriend when I need one?" Even in that case though, I don't want just any placeholder. I figure my next step is to focus on myself and become awesome and let love happen when it does. I hope that's soon. I'm a passionate guy and in my past before PMO really took a hold of me I had a much better time of unleashing that passion in healthy ways. I want to get back to that, but staring at a counter isn't what's going to get me there at this point.

I think I've answered my own question but I'm going to leave all the uncertainty in the beginning and the thread title just for the authenticity of this whole thing. I'm not leaving the site, I think I owe it to you guys to be supportive and who knows, I may need support too. But yeah, I'm shutting off my counter and moving on from the "recovery" phase. Peace.

sh1va · Feb 1, 2016

Trust your deepest intuition, soldier. I look forward to seeing you around.

sh1va, Soulless Undead (Praise the Sun)

buzzlightyear · Feb 2, 2016

Well look what we got here.

We must be clones, I'm a passionate guy too, I thought I couldn't rise from PMO with a counter it would be a chain.

It is a chain, it keeps you grounded.

I suggest you start helping others, reach out to those in need.

You have experience in succeeding, this can be helpful. Showing that you care is often enough for someone to reach just a longer streak and this can alter their whole life.

Now the most important thing of this addiction is to remember why you stopped it in the first place. What could be a better way than putting your head in the forums from time to time to see the madness that lives there. The people saying things that is contradictory to something they said in the same post.

People wanting to stop because they lost this and that due to PMO, but they don't want to install a blocker, they can't delete their stash.

It's the insanity PMO brings to these people, it's the same madness that causes us to relapse at 67 days or even 700 days.

I don't say it isn't possible and if you can leave it all behind by all means you should. Desire will always be there like a ghost that can be reignited.

It's your call, I don't know what you think is best. I just know that I tend to forget the horror of a relapse before I relapse. Going on here from time to time will solve that, or you've had so many horrors the past three years that you won't forget that fast.

Either way, have an amazing life!

Kind regards,
Commoner Cleric Buzzlightyear in Honor of Operation F.S.

msmahamed · Feb 2, 2016

Instead of giving a fuck about the counter, try framing the idea differently in your head. Instead of days on the counter, think "I don't masturbate". By saying and believing "I don't masturbate", you created a mental dis-association with masturbation.

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