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Solus,

I wish when I was 16 I had found this site. More than ANYTHING. Because it would have saved me years of heartache and misery. You are on the right path my brother. You have the chance to live the best years of your life P free which is a fucking gift if you ask me. More like a miracle.

You will save yourself a HUGE heap of trouble by getting this addiction under control at your age, and not having to worry about it in your 20's, 30's etc. When you have a serious partner, a real job, going to college, it will be much harder to deal with and will have MUCH larger repercussions.

Thank god you found this website brother. Please, get rid of the filth man. You dont need it. You dont want to add more problems to your life. Especially this one. Trust me. PLEASE take it from me man. Let me learn the hard lesson for you. Get off the P.

I'm here if you need more guidance or support. Anytime

-NONE

 

If you want some tips I highly recommend attempting to understand the nature of life, and finding a greater reason to let go of your toxic habits. 3 years ago I was in a deep hole in my life, and then I began reading books, not just any books but books written by some of the greatest people to ever live. The authors in those books would recommend books themselves, which eventually led me to eastern philosophy. The more I read the more I began to understand and see what life was really about. I have since been able to quit alcohol and mj for an entire year, and now only do so rarely. I am now focusing on destroying lust, but it is a much more difficult demon to overcome. The knowledge in the books I read has really helped give direction to my life, and although it is not a path that my family or any of my friends are pursuing, I know it is the right one for me. If you want me to recommend a starting point to save you some time, I would suggest reading the words of the Buddha, the Dhammapada.

 

Hi Solus,

I can relate man. When tough or stressful situations in life happen, I find I can relapse as well. I feel that's when I am at my most vulnerable. I don't think life will ever be without stress, so it's going to be how we deal with it & how to avoid relapsing. I am finding a lot if similar stories on here which is inspiring as many people seem to have found ways through it & are seeing the benefits.

I find a good way to start is have some things planned which won't let you relapse. Like sports. Make sure you're busy.

I'm going to try & learn & contribute to this site as much as I can & hoping that will get me back on the path I want to be on. That's my plan.

All the best mate

 

Hey Solus, you've made a great choice to come back to NoFap. NoFap is life, seriously. Life without it, life with PMO, is like... life without glasses. Life without SIGHT, even. Except it's even more than that, because it affects the way you feel physically, daily, the decisions you make, seriously everything. I know it's tough when you're relapsing time and again, and you can't get out of the slump. Trust me, I've been trying to do this for several years now and still struggling. But you can't let technology win. You can't let the modern society defeat you and enslave you. You have to fight back.

How do you fight back against a technological society which has you in its claws?

You remove it from your life. At least until you are able to resist its small temptations well enough.

That means you need to remove all opportunities allowing you to relapse when you come home from school. Install an OpenDNS filter on your computer. Block all of the internet, except those sites that you really need, if you have any (e.g. Nofap or email or something). If you have a phone with internet, disable it.

That's what I've been doing. I've been only using the internet at work, and only NoFap and email at home. I know my counter says I've only got 6 days going, but I only relapsed once in the past 14 days, which is a huge change for me.

You need to seriously go monk-mode and cut all of these luxuries out of your life, which lead you to temptation. I no longer browse Facebook, because I always find myself looking up pics of girls. I can't watch Youtube, because there are too many suggestion links, unless I use ViewPure.

Any website or pastime (like video games) which can cause you to sit there accidentally for an undefined, extended period of time is your enemy.

This is the attitude you need to have, at least for the first stages of NoFap. Try to go 30 days like this. When you make it to 30, you will probably actually enjoy the way your life is without all that clutter, and you may choose to continue for 90 days before allowing some of those things back into your life. It's up to you. But I really insist on the importance of going Spartan on your day-to-day activities.

Any time you do feel an urge, STAY AWAY from the computer/phone. If you do find yourself on one of these with an urge, either put it down or just go to NoFap, post about your urge (start a journal!), and go check out the other threads and get involved in some other discussions. Eventually it will take your mind off of it and it will pass.

Best of luck man, and let me know if you ever need any support or have more questions.

Edit: Okay I just relapsed again and it was because I didn't even do what I was advising you to do! So don't be a bum like me! lol. We need to break free of the hold of technology..

 

Maybe move your shower time to after school. When you come home, hop in a cold shower. It will refresh you, clear your mind, and allow you to think about what you can do with your day that is productive, not destructive.

 

I almost forgot! Before you give up Youtube (if you do), watch this video:

http://viewpure.com/-oM6wDxaXI0?start=0&end=0

 

How about this for motivation . Quit PMOing before your dick stops working . It really happens . lol

 

affirmation therapy. to get rid of porn.....
as sexual urges come you forget every thing so......do repeat daily in morning and evening 10 count each time........"I am controlled to eliminate this habit" when urge will come it will be repeated automatically.......the " I am" statement will remind you your power......

 

also participate in exercise sports .......as saying...:if exercise grounds are build up in world then hospitals would become