Thinking about using a chastity device

My fear would be that you could relapse right after taking it off because if your brain hasn't fully recovered and you have nothing anymore to stop you from PMO, it could lead to PMO. If it doesn't happen though, it's okay, I guess.

 

I can see how that would make me more horny, and how I would see it as a challenge to get around the device. Also it places a lot of focus on the issue of masturbation, which can be counter productive. My counter idea would be to call/text him whenever you feel a strong urge, before it gets too strong. That way he is an accountability partner helping you build your willpower rather than a gatekeeper.
The key is not be unable to relapse. The key is to be able to, and just tell yourself 'no.' If you relapse on your journey, don't beat yourself up. Identify what lead to it, and eliminate whatever that is from your life. spend a minute each morning planning what you will do during your weak moments, and then go about your day without letting your mind focus on the addiction.

 

I'm afraid that you would have an urge, end up at the hardware store and buy a wheel grinder to cut the lock...and hurt your manhood in the process...

SERIOUSLY, the chastity device, often seen in Internet P, is a fetish/role-play/humiliation/cuckold device. I don't know how good that would be to wear one...to help?
could it be possibly damaging emotionally-wise? Could it possibly contribute to the development of a complex? A new way to feel humiliated? A new sexuality?
What happens if you relapse but keep the device on? Does that hurt? Would that make you develop cuck mentality?

I'm no shrink, just throwing that out there for discussion's sake.

 

I see why you would think this might be helpful but I don't think this is the way to go. Like Icyweb said, use your friend as an accountability partner and keep an open dialogue ongoing even when you're not facing a relapse to help prevent the relapse. As for the ultimate goal of using will-power...this rarely works. A better approach would be to accept that you have this addiction, put barriers between you and PMO, develop a strong game plan for what you will do to prevent urges and what you will do if an urge arises, use the accountability partner regularly, and don't let your guard down. I've spoken with several people who are still PMO free years into recovery and they still stick to their game plans. And they focus on helping others with their addictions which keeps them engaged and motivated. Best of luck

 

This is right. When I say willpower, I mean resist when you have to, but avoid temptations whenever you can. I didn't mean to advocate resistance without any tactics. Sorry about that.

Also, if you are texting, I would suggest being somewhat vague about what the "problem" is. You don't want that info ending up in the wrong hands.

 

Do not use a chastity device. You have to get erections to maintain your penis health. That is what morning wood is for. If you use a chastity device and can't get a erection your penis can become worthless. Do not use a chastity device if you value your penis

 

I guess It's the view on the underling problem. If you look away a heroin addict, he/she can't take the drug for a speciffic amount of time just because the person is looked away. It's like cheating cause you don't have to stay strong, so probably in the wrong mindset as you set free, and instantly relapse... Cause you can't cage youself for your hole life if you know what I'm trying to say. Don't get me wrong I don't think it as a cheating in a imoral way, I just not quite sure if there's an easy way out....

 

yes this exactly I made it impossible to use my computer for 30 days as soon as I turned it on went down the path to porn.

 

Hey man its not necessary to have such a device if you have achievable plans/goals for quitting PMO.

Start by quitting masturbation & continue viewing hardcore for a few days

Then stay quit MO and view softcore non nude images for a week

Then quit MO and viewing softcore images ... You catch my drift.

Itll take longer but its more sustainable to do it this way. I'm less likely to relapse as my fascination with is going with everylevel i gear up to!

 

I have thought of this as well. The problem is ... I have a femdom fetish. So my brain was just trying to trick me into a fetish.

 

I just went into my router and blocked all the porn sites I went to. It won't block Https website. I use to spend a hour every night looking at youporn

 

Quitting cold turkey seems like a much better technique.

 

The big danger with quitting a little bit at a time is that it is incredibly easy to continue bad behavior much longer, and still feel like comfortable with it. The real key to quitting is find something in your life worth quitting for, and then remember that. If you are truly determined to quit, you will naturally want to seek out ways to avoid temptations. You will need to push yourself, but you will figure out what works best for you if you are really determined to fix this area of your life.
Also, trading out your chastity device idea for something like an internet/media blackout would be a good compromise between avoiding temptation and physically locking yourself up.

 

I use one for sleeping, only because too many times I have M half awake and was unable to realize what I was doing till I woke up the next morning or my partner woke me up because I was doing stuff in my sleep.

 

Straight to the point, chastity devices are bullshit. You better keep on fapping than having one of those in your genital. It's the freedom you are aiming in nofap not some midage torture. I am a bit harsh maybe but it is because I think these bs devices can make everything worse than they already are. Developing new kind of fetishes and stuff like that. Stay away from it. You dont need it. Thats my point. Take care...