Sex scenes in movies & tv shows??

First off the more you worry about it the more you keep those same emotions front and center. It takes 6-12 weeks for your brain to rewire itself and to not have porn controlling your actions each day. With that in mind, you will need something positive to focus on. If you tend to spend most of your day sitting behind a computer or on the couch watching movies and tv programs then you are not changing your habits. Everyone likes routine and our brains love it. The more often you do something the easier it is for you to do it without even thinking about it. Think about when you are driving a car and something runs in front of you. You don't think about putting on the brakes, you just do it. That is because your brain has been wired to do that. It can be the same thing with drinking, drugs, porn, eating or whatever. As soon as you set yourself in motion, your brain takes over. Get off the couch, turn off the tv, put away the smart (dumb) phone or the laptop. Find positive things to do and surround yourself with family and real friends. It is pretty difficult to porn surf when your Mom or sister is right there with you. Pick a day this week and use that as your start date. Look on the calendar and make a note 3 weeks then 6 then 9 and finally 12 weeks. Make small strides and don't give up

 

I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm guessing you are of the generation which has been brought up with the entertainment of the internet available to you 24/7. Having before your eyes, at any vacant moment, an endless 'feed' of stimulation tends to breed passivity; you simply consume what has been produced for you. If that is the case, you need to start developing a strength in yourself, where you 'push back' against your surrounding. This should take the shape of self-development, or, in word I prefer, self-determination; you will determine your own future; you are an intelligence with free will and capable of feeling the mystery and beauty of the world. You'll see through the bubble of technology, which is simply there to distract us, and take an active curiosity in the things that truly are. And that friend, is the adventure of Being and Becoming.

• Start reducing your use of media
• Start reading
• Start walking in the parks [re-creation]
• Start writing down your thoughts
• Start spending time with people/ developing friendships

The more self-determined you are in your actions, the less of an impact your environment will have on you. You'll not only develop new habits, but also an active mind that won't react so passively to the constant feed of sexual images. They may lead a horse....

 

Why were you searching? You need to exert some self-control when you're starting off. Soon, when you've developed good habits, the compulsions to search will be much, much lower.

I don't understand what you're saying happened, but it doesn't matter. Just don't do it again.

 

Sorry for such a late reply. The first thing you need to do is stop thinking in legalistic terms. I face some of the same issues as you, so please humor me while I share. Whenever I relapsed, I would make sure I remembered what I did, how many times I did it, and what other sins were involved that I would need to confess later that week (I'm a Catholic.) The problem with that, is that I was so focused on identifying when I had relapsed that I was actually relapsing to a greater degree and also more often. If I were to relapse again, I would of course try to remember the relevant details for my next confession, but I would try to avoid focusing on the details and definitions so much that I get lost in them. I believe you have a similar issue. You want to know if you've relapsed to know if you should reset your counter. We can't know if you've relapsed. We can offer advice and help you figure things out, but you know what is in your heart and mind, not us. Here are some guidelines for determining if you relapsed.

Did you intentionally look at porn/porn subs?
Did you do something to yourself that gave you sexual pleasure?

If you didn't do those, you may have done the next worst thing, which is easing into a relapse.

Did you go on the internet/tv to see porn/porn subs while lying to yourself that you just wanted to look something up or watch something?
Did you touch yourself or entertain thoughts to make yourself a little bit aroused?

If you do find that you've relapsed, walk it off. Don't wallow in it. Apologize to anyone who deserves an apology (including yourself,) forgive yourself, and move on.
You can use these as guidelines to keeping yourself on the right path, but like others have suggested, YOU need to get up and get out. YOU need to find some books to read and hobbies to enjoy. YOU need to stop spending so much time with media. When was the last time you just turned off your phone and put it in a drawer, closed your computer, and enjoyed the real world? It's a wonderful place if you take the time to engage with it. Next time you feel like "plugging in" try engaging with the world. You will have some disappointments, but overall, it's worth it.
You are working hard right now, if you take a break from the all the media, you will be able to enjoy the fruits of all that hard work. Give it a try, and remember that you are a good person, and you are worth the effort.

I've got faith in you.

 

It isn't easy, but you are making progress. Keep it up. You can also try planning exactly what you will do before you get on the internet. If you decide to deviate from the plan, sit back and ask yourself, "am I doing this for some kind of sexual gratification?" The answer will probably be yes, and then you can turn off the computer/phone and go occupy yourself with something better.

 

Depends,

If you're getting excited, and a rush from it.. then fast forward or just ignore the TV until the scene goes away.