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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by shanky kumar, Jan 28, 2016.

  1. We think porn is a way to take out stress but in the long term, watch out !! In the end, it just adds more stress.
     
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  2. shanky kumar

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    Yup, it definitely add up stress, I have to work hard on studies for this year, 12 the class. One thing I observed that it's like hell when you were on the top and sudden stroke arrives in your academics , I know it has many disadvantage, it's ruining me but where's by discipline gone?? Just before coming here I tried to edge but stopped , it keeps me pulling in , I want a life without PMO, every time I I Masturbate it feels too bad and for the rest day I feel like shit ; which might happen with most . I WANT THE RIGHT TO WRITE IN SUCCESS STORIES SECTION AND I AM COMING BACK :) , don't worry about your 12 exams ( therandomorder) JO HOTA HAI ACHHE K LIYE , YOUR LIFE IS THERE IN BETWEEN DARKNESS BUT I KNOW U HAVE THE potential GO HIGH UP IN THE SKYY .
    DAY 2 . URGES ARE coming , I AM CONTROLLING :)
     
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  3. sunshine421

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    Day 20. Yeah made it passed 20 days! :) I am getting more and more thoughts of soft porn (i.e. nudity, semi-nudity) especially from YouTube, Facebook and Instagram. I must not stay into that area. Just now when I woke I felt an urge to fap. But I know my goal, so I didn't fap.

    @shanky kumar I understand brother, at that age even I tried and failed many times. I see you really want to quit PMO for life, right?

    But I must say, if you have your 12th exams, then please focus on that. If not fapping takes more energy than focusing on your studies, then just release the tension and fap. Just don't watch porn. Never watch porn. After a fap or two your brain will not be able to fap soon afterwards (if you don't watch porn) and you can then meditate, compose yourself, and get back to study.

    Soon your craving for porn will go away, and maintaining a streak will be easier. But really, I learned the hard way that 10th, 12th marks are asked over and over again, even now when I'm 23.

    What is something you really like to do? For me it is to watch documentary films on YouTube. So whenever I get an urge, I acknowledge the urge. I meditate on it, how it craves my body. Then I meditate on why I took up NoFap. Then I ask myself whether I should fap. I feel what it is to achieve my goal. If I choose not to fap, then I (mostly) open YouTube and watch those films. It doesn't take mental effort to watch a film, right? And since I am interested in that, it takes my mind off the urge to fap.

    What is your replacement habit? Remember it has to be so simple that even a brain dead person can do it (that is extreme, but you get the point), and it has to be interesting for you. I read this in the Power of Habit book by Charles Duhigg.
     
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    DAY6- I was busy these two days specially today and yesterday. the first 4 days went on with porn, edged but no orgasm , after that these two days were busy and I got 6 green ticks on my march calender , hell yeah i am not gonna watch even porn subs. from now coz i know if I watch once it will rob my hard earned days streak . well sunshine421 i am in 12th right now and will appear in boards in 2017. :)
     
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  6. sunshine421

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    Great! Keep it up. I'm on day 23, going well at the moment. :)
     
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    1 week complete, too high feeling
     
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    i relapsed , masturbated twice . HOW IS IT TO REDUCE MASTURBATION TO TWICE A MONTH AND THEN SLOWLY SLOWLY TO NO PMO
     
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    well the day today was sleepy since I did it twice , now I again have Idea to break this addiction for ever which is quite contradicting to my prev. post. I didnt realised that my so much time would be wasted firstly in watching than in M'ing. today was the day for chest workout and I feel bery bad when I see traces of gynocomestia right there on my chest . :( . everytime I broke I maintain myself completely abstained from PMO for two days than somehow I start edging and ultimately fap. this I would even try to get away from the P subs they only force me to M.
     
  10. sunshine421

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    Do you realize you're behaving like a smoker who "quits" many times? Or a coward who dies many times before his death? It had been the same situation with me also. For 10 years (out of the 15 years I was doing PMO) I tried to quit. Be ready to accept and forgive yourself. It's a tough climb out.

    How to reduce Masturbation? You need to prepare to overcome it, just as how you prepare before a test. Just like how military trains in mock drills before the actual war. You need to put yourself in the scene many times.

    I see that you are panicking. At first, even I would panic. It is scary that the whole body doesn't do what the mind tells it to do, and the mind doesn't do what you as a person want it to do. In this panic mode, I realised that I tend to fall for the trap more easily. I understand. Even I, when I'm sleepy, can't control my actions as compared to when I'm awake.

    But don't panic. If you prepare well, you definitely know what to do when a particular thought or a physical urge comes to you. How to prepare? I can tell you what I did.

    Porn (Thoughts):
    Since you're as it is watching porn now, the next time a thought comes to watch porn, watch it again. Yes, watch it again. Get aroused. Then meditate on how you get aroused. The purpose of the meditation is not to take your mind away from porn or from the arousal. It's just so that you know in what manner you get excited. This was a similar thing I did for porn. It came from how I tried to cut my earlier craving on cheeseburgers. The burger store was on my way home. I would pass the store, smell the juicy air, and say to myself, "This is not what I want," and then go home.

    After you felt how your body and mind craves for it, recall your aim, "I was not born to masturbate", or whatever that is. If your desire to quit is strong enough, you will quit it. This method takes time. It's not immediately that you'll stop porn or masturbation.

    Masturbation (Physical craving):
    For edging, the same thing applies. Feel yourself while edging, feel the physical urge. Then recall your goal. You're sure that you want to quit PMO, right? Then stop it after you recalled your goal. Don't think to hard when you stop. You know you're going to stop, so just stop it. If you're finding that tough: get aroused, then put cold water on it. The act of changing places and temperature will distract your mind better.

    But now that I've passed this phase, even when I'm faced with arousing thoughts, my desire to quit is stronger, and I can safely move on to other tasks. This was training for my mind, and it has really helped me.

    The purpose of preparation is to put yourself in the situation many times, and trying hard to come out of it many times. This is the training.


    1. This is what worked for me. But I'm sure you can give it a try for a month.
    2. This certainly works when I'm awake. But not when I'm sleepy, where the brain sort of goes in an automatic mode. For that, I won't count as a relapse, because the poor brain has been hardwired to do all this automatically. But I noticed that even when I'm sleepy, this automatic thing is decreasing, though it hasn't gone completely. This will take more time to rewire my brain, but for that, I am avoiding all triggers when I'm sleepy.

    As I said this takes time. After the initial motivation of my post, there will be 4 weeks of boring, hard work. What will keep you motivated is your aim. Do you want to do this? Let me know.
     
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    Fapped thrice in 2 daysdays. No study ,I was out of station
     
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    i am gonna reduce it to once a week sometimes i fell its quite impossible to quit.
     
  14. sunshine421

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    My time has come. :) I see another worthy fighter in you @mf41. Do well!

    As for me, I go back to train more. See you guys.
     
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    :( i again fapped now this day is gonna be a life changing day. I am fed up of this creepy habit . since 5 years i am fighting with it (from age 11) it had affected me a lot in many ways . in the experience of 5 years i have seen a gradual change in my pmo routine . in the first year I was addicted to M but now I am addicticted to p subs i M only when I watch p ot their subs. I AM FEB UP OF THIS > from NOW I PLEDGE THAT I AM NOT GONNA M at all, See P or their subs. at all. Well today i went to bathroom with my mob and 3g connection on it and just logged into porn and hot tumblr pics.
    the new month is gonna be fap free.
     
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    again fapped :( seems as if trapped
     
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    i again fapped, feeling too bad well this time my mom caught me not ming , but i was cleaning the stuff she said whats that , are you spitting , i just wrapped up with a nearby piece of paper and said there's my secret written over there ,she said give me that, i sid no and ran away she might be suspicious about that. FROM NOW I AM NOT GAOING DO IT AGAIN. at least noth this month.
     
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    M'd twice in 2 days , consecutive . It feels too bad after masturbation and I want to leave this addiction as if i never knew it.
     
  19. MikeSolo

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    You can do it buddy, calm your mind and see the light that is the rest of your life, a good life.
     
  20. shanky kumar

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    fapped after 10 days , ;( , i joined gym that extended my time to 10 days and now i will try to completely leave it
     

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