How do you deal with overconfident people?

Look through the BS he is spouting. If he needs to big himself up then he is lacking in confidence. It is an act

 

maybe they tend to act confident to show their strength, make others feel weak, and they feel good about that, narcissistic traits maybe. especially in asian culture, people are afraid of being weak because they're gonna be judged, then they act like everything is ok even it is not, just to earn others' respect. or maybe that guy was just an asshole lol

 

I really wanna know if overconfident people are fapping.

 

Desiderata
Max Ehrmann, writer and lawyer (1872-1945)

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste and rememeber what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly. And listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, for they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggresive persons, for they are vexatious to the spirit. Never compare yourself with others. You may become vain or bitter, for there will be always greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements, as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your career, however humble. It is a real possesion in the changing fortunes of life. Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is. Many people strive for high ideals and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love. For in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings, for many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have a right to be there. And whether or not it is clear to you, the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be. And whatever your labours and aspirations in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

 

Why would you want to be?

 

In my experience, people act like that due to the fact that they have been made fun of in the past. So, in order to "prevent" that (I actually take a different approach), they try to increase others' perception of him/herself, so that he or she will not be made fun of.

 

You don't deal with people like that. You deal with yourself. It might be who he is, or he might be faking it. But either way he is acting the way he is, for whatever reason, which is irrelevant in my opinion, that's a fact. There probably is nothing you can do about it. You can do something about yourself tho. Ask yourself why does it bother you? And what kind of mindset you would need to be for it to not bother you?

I actually like "fake it till you make it" method. I think it's very powerful. Just being yourself and then waiting for confidence to come on it's own naturally... well, that's another method. I think it's useful if the challenge you have is to be confident with yourself and who you are. But if you are trying to become something more than you are then faking it till you make it works great. After acting a certain way, even if it's fake at first, later becomes natural for you and no more is fake. I do however think that being confident with the way you are now is a foundation that's great to have before attempting to build something more.

 

Never liked the "fake it till you make" concept. Fake anything is shallow, untrustworthy. Now, mentally acting as though you were in possession of what you want trains the subconscious mind to operate as though you are that thing. It's very different than faking it.

There will always be people who appear greater than you and those who appear lesser. Judging comes easily. It takes wisdom to postpone a judgement until all the facts are considered.

 

Don't get sucked into it. Outcool him by not being so cocky.