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Current terrors attacks makes me anxious and nervous

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Huntilt, Mar 31, 2016.

  1. Huntilt

    Huntilt Fapstronaut

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    Hi all,

    I'm french and living in Paris so excuse my bad english but i need to feel better talking about that. I'm on rebooting process after 14 years of porn addiction and i started to feel the improvment on day 50/60. My PIED was almost cured , i felt more happy, dynamic and any urge or whenever.
    Unfortunately, all these improvement seem to get down and i feel completely despressed by what happen in France and Belgium and the threat Paris has. The last terror attack in brussels hqs given me a deep anxiety and i'm very scared by what could happen every time i take the metro or going to the airport. These make me as if i need to get back to porn to feel better and i start to surfing into a fetish website i used to have before. I left the site after 5 mn but despite that i dont feel any improvement. When i wake up i think about that and are completely anxious and sad... do i need to speak to theapist or should i focus only to my reboot and not thinking about these dramatic situations... I dont really know what i have actually..

    thanks for your help
     
  2. JoeinUSA

    JoeinUSA Fapstronaut

    I suppose feeling a negative reaction from terrorism is somewhat normal - so a normal level of stress or anxiety is expected - it would be more a problem if you had an uncontrollable urge to giggle. If the stress levels don't subside, however, and you cannot cope or function, then some therapy might be in order. Also, there is a possibility that the inner addict side of you is simply taking advantage of these vulnerable anxious feelings to get you to relapse. If that is the case, then the addict's real aim is not to make you stressed over terrorism for its own sake, but simply and always to get you back into the PMO addiction. Do not give the addict the satisfaction. Rather, call the addict out with you true self and true voice (the side of you that knows right and wrong and that wants to live a healthy and happy life), and expose the addict and tell him that you know what he's up do and tell him to get lost. Then, you will be the one terrorizing the addict and not vice versa.

    Best wishes!
     
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  3. Here's what I've learned about fear, in general lately: it's useless.

    Fear, in the midst of an immediate danger, can be very useful. A great Doctor Who quote: "Fear is a super power. It can make you faster and stronger and cleverer."

    But fear about potential dangers is completely useless. I'm not trying to be harsh when I say this, because I understand how strong fear can grip people sometimes, and it definitely hasn't been easy for me to get past. But the thing is, think about your fear. Is it doing you any good? Oftentimes I would think, "Well, if I think about this stuff a lot, I might be better prepared to handle the situation if something bad happened." But honestly, I think that's one of fear's lies. I don't think I'm more prepared to handle someone breaking into my house with a gun because I've worried about it a lot. Worrying and being fearful isn't going to change the future. You might never be involved in a terrorist attack, or perhaps you will, but whether or not you live in fear will not change that outcome. Even if you went to the extreme and stayed in your home for the rest of your life, due to fear, that wouldn't necessarily save you from an attack.

    So, anyway, I've learned recently to stop worrying about what might happen in the future, especially when it's something I have little or no power to stop. If it's gonna happen, it'll happen whether I've worried about it or not. But if I worry about it, I'm wasting my time and my life on something hypothetical that hasn't happened yet and probably never will.

    I also agree with this guy. ^ He's a pretty wise dude.
     
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  4. Golgo 13

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    The chance of you getting killed by a terrorist is so low its not even worth worrying about
     
  5. Huntilt

    Huntilt Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for your advices and help. I agree that there is more chance to get injured or worst by crossing a road than by a terrorist attacks but atmosphere in France these last times are so unreal and stresfull that makes me very anxious. I agree that change nothing...
     
  6. 8BitsOfStuggling

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    You are more likely to die while driving in a car than a terrorist attack. Terrorists just get more attention. Don't let it stress you out, it is a super minority that is radicalized.
     
  7. Star Lord

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    Don't fear death and don't fear people.
    It's easier said than done obviously.
    Personally the way I see it is, if it's my time to die whatever the cause, then so be it.
    Enjoy your life as it unravels, don't stress yourself over things you have no control over.
     

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