A difficult day....

OK, you're probably right. Sounds likely he relapsed. But what does this mean, and what happens next? What are your feelings about this, and what are the consequences for him?

If you're at the point where you can't take this anymore, he's had his final warning and this is the last straw, then it's pretty simple. You need to confront him about it, and if he can't convince you he's still clean, then you move on to the next phase: rehab for him, divorce, or whatever you feel needs to be done.

If you're NOT at that point, then it's more complicated. He's an addict, and addicts slip sometimes. You may want to vent some anger at him, but you need to stay calm and think about how best to get him back on track. What he already did is less important than what he does next.

 

I'd be worried too.

 

One of my fav quotes from the book "your sexually addicted spouse"
"A trustworthy person bears certain markers: they are consistent (predictable), they take responsibility for their own actions and they admit when they make mistakes rather than blame others. They do what they say they are going to do and their behaviors match their words. Trust is something that takes only seconds to shatter but takes what feels like an eternity to rebuild."
He has to earn your trust back and it doesn't sound like he is being trust worthy right now.