I'm afraid that if I quit porn I'll lose my dominance and confidence in bed

Porn in my opinion portrays a-lot of disrespect towards women. It is uncaring and objectifies them.
I'd definitely consider loosing the porn whilst I do agree women love to be dominated in bed.

At the end of the day your more a man because you can dominate women in bed BECAUSE your a man THAN if you can dominate women in bed BECAUSE you copy porn...

 

A lot of guys quit porn because real sex doesn't turn them on anymore. They want to be turned on more easily. This will probably happen to you, at least initially, but if you can maintain that dominance, off porn, then you're the man, bro.
Like Complete said, be dominant because you're a man and it's in your nature; not because you're imitating porn.

 

Porn helped you to see them as objects. Not every single woman wants to be "dominated".
There is a difference between a male instinct to dominate and seeing a woman as a f*cktoy.

 

Porn is porn and sex is sex. Copying what you see in porn will not make you better in bed not will you enjoy it more as you will be too busy trying to imitate what you saw in said porn and won't truly be in the moment. Women pick up on this, that you aren't actually connected to them as a sexual being but instead as an object for you to dominate. True sexual pleasure comes from more than bodies mashing together. No matter how long or little you have known someone you can't fully satisfy them or yourself if you aren't completely in the moment. Stop worrying about mimicking porn and start feeling with your body, porn has shown an unrealistic example on how sex should be. If you are animalistic in the bedroom you don't need porn to show you how to do it.
Please note as the wife of a sa I can't pretend I know what you are going through I can only tell you from what I have read and what I have experienced from the other side.

I wish you all the best.

 

Yeah I really agree with Blackmilk.

It sounds like youre more worried that you'll start to view women as human beings with dignity, rather than these lifeless ragdolls that you can do anything to.

When you get older youll realise that either you dont want to be with the sort of women that just want a wild, casual sex ride (theyre using you too, you know - even if it is their messed up revenge on their dads or something), or youll realise that youll eventually no longer be attractive to those women anyway. So then what are you going to do?

It's serious bs to believe that porn gives us Anything worth keeping. All it does is take - time, relationships, masculinity, courage, even health. You need to convince yourself of that first.

 

That seems a little unfair to me - Black and white thinking won't help anybody, we need to approach the issue pragmatically.

I also think it's a fair point about what women want - The only contribution I would add is that possibly confidence is what we are really talking about. A lot of women love confidence in the bedroom and often this translates to dominating the situation so to speak and taking charge.

For me the no PMO thing is all about gaining back that confidence and having great authentic experiences with real women - the rest will follow.

 

Great point. People seem to forget that. And what about the amateur sites where married couples do it for kicks? Women aren't always coming from situations where they have no choice in their lives to do something besides porn. I still think its unhealthy to always look at it (obviously) but I think there's a misconception about who does porn and why.

To the main point, though, I'd say its not confidence you're feeling but rather power or a lustful inspiration to dominate. Confidence comes from within and you can be in control without viewing porn. If you HAVE to look at porn to be dominant and feel like you always have to be that way with women, I'd say you aren't being real with yourself. Putting on the act of always being dominant will probably hurt the relationship in the long run. Best of luck. When you fail, just brush yourself off and keep going forward.