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This downward spiral is out of control and has to stop... now

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Time4aChange, Apr 18, 2014.

  1. Time4aChange

    Time4aChange Fapstronaut

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    Today is DAY ONE.

    I started fapping around the time I was 14, and it has been at least 10 years now. I turn 25 in just under 3 months. I thought I would have accomplished more with my life by now. I've been slacking in my career, I've been failing miserably with women, my social life is almost non-existent at times...

    I am forced to admit that I have an addiction. Fapping has directly and indirectly been ruining my life in more ways than I think I realize. I will only know what the real damage has been once I kick this addiction, but this is what I know I'm experiencing.

    -Low Confidence/Self Esteem
    -Procrastination
    -Physically and Mentally Tired (even though I sleep a lot)
    -Low Motivation/Energy
    -Erectile Dysfunction
    -Stay at home doing nothing productive
    -Turn down social activities
    -When I am social, it often comes across as awkward
    -Depression
    -I get sick and it takes weeks to get better
    -My emotions are out of control

    It's finally time to end this once and for all. I know I'm going to have setbacks, but I have to change the direction my life is going. The ultimate goal would be to get to 365 days, but I'd be happy right now to just have a week under my belt.

    Today is DAY ONE.
    Starting in hard mode, but I may reconsider if a girlfriend comes into the picture.
     
    Last edited: Apr 18, 2014
  2. movingon

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    Congratulations to making decision that will change your life! Your post is almost the same as what I was experiencing 3 weeks ago when I cut the PMO. All I can say it is totally worth it. Abstinence will help you get rid off the symptoms you are experiencing. I am not sure if you watched the Gary Willson's TEDx video - if not - you should watch it - it is an eye opener: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU . Also, www.yourbrainonporn.com is a GREAT resource and provides scientifically backed information on why porn is causing so much damage and how to rebalance your brain again. Good luck on your journey!
     
  3. Time4aChange

    Time4aChange Fapstronaut

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    Thanks man! I'm not looking forward to the withdrawal symptoms and flatlining, but if I can just get to the other side and get my brain's reward circuitry back closer to normal, I think I've got a chance.

    Does anyone know if your brain can truly get back to what it once was before a pmo addiction?
     
  4. Time4aChange

    Time4aChange Fapstronaut

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    I'm nearing a week since I joined NoFap.org and started my path to recovery. It has not been easy.

    I have done a lot of research here and on YourBrainOnPorn.com that has been a Huge difference between now and when I tried to quit PMO all on my own.

    Thanks everyone, for the first time in years I feel like I have a fighting chance at conquering this.
     
  5. Time4aChange

    Time4aChange Fapstronaut

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    In a couple of hours, I will have made my first streak longer than any I have had in YEARS of trying on my own. This is all thanks to you guys and gals in this community and the knowledge you have shared with me. I wish you have as much joy as I feel in this moment!
     
  6. Time4aChange

    Time4aChange Fapstronaut

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    I've made it to 13 days now, almost a complete 2 weeks!!!

    The first week really, really sucked. This week has been a little easier so far. Hopefully my progress keeps on improving, and each week becomes easier to continue this change in my life.

    Stay strong everyone! Every time we can get through a tough spot without relapsing is building our willpower even more!
     
    Last edited: May 1, 2014
  7. BJsHope

    BJsHope Fapstronaut

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    Keep it up, brother. I am feeling more encouraged just by reading your words.

    Stay vigilant!
     
  8. Time4aChange

    Time4aChange Fapstronaut

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    Well, it's been an up and down ride so far. I've had small successes and a lot of failures... but I'm not going to give up! My longest streak was 2 weeks, I need to make it there again, and then make it to 30 days.

    I wish I had kept my first streak going, that first streak was so motivating. Now I'm just fighting to try and stay motivated. Don't give up on your first streak, keep that first streak going because that's the fastest way to recovery!
     

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