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A half hour?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Comawhite, May 3, 2016.

  1. Comawhite

    Comawhite New Fapstronaut

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    I made it a half hour into my commitment to stay pmo free. Like...wtf? Is there something wrong with me? This shit has ruined my life, my marriage, and now my dignity and self respect...well...it has always destroyed my self respect. I feel so horrible every time I do it. So why do I keep on doing it? I just want to feel something other than what I am feeling and try to escape through pmo, but it only makes it worse. What do I do? Is anyone elses struggle like this. The let down? Lack of will power? Like... wtf?
     
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  2. Cheburashka

    Cheburashka Fapstronaut

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    Ha! That's awesome. Now you see how strong your opponent is. And how hard it will fight to stay in your life destroying everything that is good. You are in such a good place. Because now you know that the fight is real. And PMO will only leave kicking and screaming. But it will leave. And it can die. Start again; this time stronger, wiser, and more determined.
     
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  3. Jodokus

    Jodokus Fapstronaut

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    I see it as Cheburashka.
    When we make a commitment we feel like something was achieved. Unfortunately that's not the case. It would be interesting to know what changed in those 30 minutes... but in the end we all know relapses. The urges just get the better of us. The only thing you can do is to accept it (accept your addiction) knowing that it's part of the process, make new goals, a new commitment and go for a next try. At some point either your control gets better or the urges become less or both.

    Advice coming from my own experience: Step1: exchange P with NoFap and tank motivation Step2: use your new energy to deal with your life Step3: recommence with Step1
     
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  4. nitsuj0786

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    You have to learn to live with discomfort, the discomfort will fade overtime though. A lot of us on here are not used to having to face discomfort and learn that it will pass, we want to escape it immediately. Discomfort will be there, just means you are doing something right. Another thing is you can't get rid of an addiction only replace it. So, find something to replace it with, a hobby, a passion, something you really enjoy doing. Next, you need draw a plan out, something to do when you are triggered, and find out what your triggers are. A lot of people meditate, go for a walk, take a break for their electronics for however long, cold showers, tons of other things. A couple things to remember, you can't sit there and say I will not look at porn then do nothing. It will be as helpful as if I told you not to think about a pink elephant, what is the first thing you think about then. Next, you will relapse, probably more than once. I have and learn that it is ok. Right down what happened and revise your plan on what to do next time. Here is a video you may not understand completely right away but soon you will.
     
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  6. von77

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    Progress not perfection brother. The only way you can fail is if you quit. Look at what tripped you up and try and remove or replace it.

    I personally no longer use my laptop anymore and as soon as I feel the slightest urge to look at porn I come here and read forum posts. Big help. I look at it as I want to replace behaviour not eliminate it. If I used to pick up my phone to look at porn now I read nofap posts and say to myself "I'm an addict". I believe in you. Baby steps.
     
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