Question for those who have been successful

Good news - life gets better after joining NoFap

Bad news - it's ALOT of self-loathing, self-reflection, self-hating

Give it your all and prepare for the ride of your life! It's gonna be a roller coaster fer sure.

 

not true about self loathing, and self hating. If you're doing that then you haven't made any progress i'm afraid. Self hate is when you're watching porn and masturbating for years, and when you stop doing that you stop hating youself.

if you've been masturbating since very ealry years, then you will be able to feel like you never felt before, youll get confidence and energy like you haven't been feeling, and you might as well feel anxious or depressed (I haven't some people report this) Body won't start to change just because you stop masturbating. Thats the myth people believe. The only reason youll have good body, and exercise, is because you will genuinelly want to do it and you will do it constantly and with discipline, which will make you strongand good looking. You will start talking to people more becasue you will get used to talking to them without fear etc, and then youll gradualy become more at ease, and this will boost your confidence, and when you're more confident, you'll then talk even more, and this will make you even more confident. It's all aobut being proactive. Proactive people will only even feel any benefits. Sitting at home will give you no benefitas at all, you might as well get back to masturbating, if you're not planning to meet people and go out with friends, and start doing something new in your life.

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btw I've been porn and masturbation free for more than three months now, and this is my second attempt. (I have diary written here, if oyu want to read more aobut my story) So I think I have the right to talk about this topic.

 

Only you can tell once you have come out of it. There are plenty of testimonies on ybop.com from those who have gone serval months or even years of no pmo.

 

Hey StrangerRN,

I replied to you on something else last night. I will tell that after six YEARS of no porn or porn substitutes. Life is awesome. It took a lot of new strategies to get here. If you have a goal bigger than your own self-pleasure it is easier. Staying married beat the PMO impulse pretty well. The relational stuff that I struggled with took more time to get through.

 

please if u can answer my question... i completed 30 days today but every now and then i have this strong desire to masterbate and lam afraid that one day i will masterbate and get to the cycle again.So my question is: how many days will it take for me to live normally again and not feel that i need to masterbate,you know like i never have started in the first place..... ok is it just not possible and for me to keep this life (the good one without masterbating) i have to stay fighting for ever?I hope u got my question and thanks.

 

I am on day 70 today and the urges are still strong. The best thing you can do is stay away from triggers. Some days are good some are not. Hang in there during the tough times.

 

thanks

 

thanks

 

I always express, this idea that you urges are a problem depending on how much you dabble in the sexual thoughts caused by the urges.. the first thought that hits you, is when you say "Fuck you!" or "come on"