Need Advice on seeing someone when you have this addiction

Ezio188 · May 6, 2016

So I've been seeing this girl for a few months now and the first time we did stuff it was fine could easily get turned on. Now I can't really at all which is the quickest I've been able to not be when meeting someone. I told her about my addiction which she sort of understands. She is a bit larger than I expected which is due to her parents breaking up and gaining weight. Feel horrible but this has put me off her as I expected her to be slimmer. So there is kinda two problems that I am not getting turned on because of her weight and the porn addiction I like her as a person but right now I'm not physically attracted. Anyone advice?

Jodokus · May 6, 2016

When you like her but aren't attracted (enough) it can't be helped. Don't force yourself. When you have told her anyway about your addiction you can tell her to wait a little bit.
Maybe you just need some days of abstinence and you will crave for having sex with her. If you need more time to reboot and/or to connect with her that's ok too.
You're probably spoiled by porn: chicks that are slim and busty at the same time, pure skin, bleached... y'know what I mean. But even if you would have sex with your dream-girl it would be different than in porn. Of course porn is just a poor copy of sex but as p-addicts we have to relearn to enjoy sex rather than p.
So take your time to find out how attracted you're to that girl when you don't listen to your false friend porn anymore.

Good luck!

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