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He needs to adjust his attitude to accept the natural (wet dreams) and only reject the artificial (porn and wanking). Wet dreams are completely harmless, not a relapse, and your body's way of coping with the change of no pmo/mo. He'll level off eventually. Tell him to just roll with it and think nothing of it. It will likely pass soon.

 

I had 1 in the initial days of a reboot. Honestly, encourage him and tell him to enjoy the after affects. Give him confidence his body may be naturally adjusting to his newly wired brain.

 

I am glad you're wanting to support him in this, because that's more than half the battle.

 

From what I have read in the book "The Joy of Sex", wet dreams are actually a sign of a healthy man. It's a good sign!

 

Also, I didn't read the whole thing but the consensus here also seems to be that it's normal and a good sign. http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/book/export/html/24

 

You're welcome!!

 

Sometimes I get wet dreams multiple times per week, other times I go for months without noticing one. They seem to increase when I'm under a lot of stress, or if I let my thoughts and attention focus on sex. I don't like them because they make me horny the next day and can be messy, but other than that, there's nothing wrong with them. It isn't a failure if you literally have no control over it. He could try some kind of exercise to avoid them. I get them more when I just sit around for long periods of time. That's probably just a coincidence, but exercise, even going for a walk, can help you feel better no matter what. Peeing before going to sleep might also help him by reducing the overall pressure in that area. Also, avoiding focus on thoughts about sex will help him. He may just have to trudge through this phase though. They will become infrequent once his body learns it doesn't need to produce so much.