Help... I lost the will to quit...

BackToManhood · May 10, 2016

Guys, I need help. Two months ago I completely lost the will to do NoFap. I've been fapping continuously and I'm physically exhausted, and sore. The past few days have been the worst. I need out of this.

My counters are wrong obviously. But I've been trying NoFap for years. And I could just never shake it. I recently just gave up hope. Since then I never even tried to stop, at any time. I just gave in to every temptation.

I was visiting my girlfriend for two weeks recently, and didn't have any temptations to fap there. When I'm around her, I don't want to. But I did have the usual problems performing, which hurts her, and I know it.

But then I came back to my home country and old environment, and it's the same old story. No matter of guilt, no amount of thoughts about my girlfriend and how much I'm hurting her, can change my habits. It's so deeply ingrained into me that I just don't think about anything anymore. I just fap.

I'm simply just miserable where I currently am. I hate it here, this city. And it makes me do stupid things, to try to break the monotony. I'm bored and lonely, I don't care for anyone I meet, or anyone who tries to be my friend. I don't know what it is, I think there is something about my location and the people here that I don't like. There's also the fact that I will be moving soon, which makes me put less energy into friendships here.

I'm moving to her soon, in two months. But I want to build my strength. I want to be strong, able to resist fapping even without her influence.

I really love the country I'm moving to. I know I'll be happier there. Things will be easier. But I still want to build up my strength.

In my current state, I don't know how it's possible for me to quit. It's been said here before, that you have to reach rock bottom before you really get the motivation to change things. But I don't want to reach that point. I don't want to lose my girlfriend. I want to stop it before it gets that far.

Still, I can't change my environment either. I don't have the money or time to get involved in clubs or sports. I can't move apartments until I leave the country. My home environment remains the same. I don't have the discipline to establish a schedule, and even if I do, I still fall to relapse.

I'm working at home and making my own hours, so everything is up to me and my own broken will.

WHAT DO I DO?

Awakening123 · May 10, 2016

Ask yourself: have you hit the rock bottom yet? If not yet then may be losing your gf would be the rock bottom. You can turn things around before this scenario happens. Don't make excuses like it's too hard to or I have to use comp all day long. You will find a way if you are ready to go through the pain of recovery.

Buzz Lightyear · May 10, 2016

Do something very practical like this:

Go for one day, then two, then four, then eight, then sixteen... you get the idea.

You should build resistance and then lose the desire on the month or two month long streak.

The 1000 Water Fists · May 10, 2016

All I can say is you have to take this reboot,one day at a time. Success is not not a straight road there will be many detours but eventually,you will find a way.I have had months where I would fap every single day.I used to doubt myself and think that I would never get pass this wall but I kept coming back.I kept coming no matter what.I have realized that on this journey you are the main star,you are the hero,you are the damsel in distress and you are the villain.It's all you.You have to decide if you really want break free or not.

Golgo 13 · May 11, 2016

I understand bro, completely.
All I can say is we can't help you, only you can do that.

Simple as that. May sound harsh but at the end of the day after you're done reading this thread you have the long road of boredom, frustration and disappointment ahead of you.
It's hard, oh yes sir it is hard to beat this addiction. Are you having trouble with Porn or masturbation?

Let me give you some tips that helped me.

Accept the fact that you will have to endure a long period of depression and sadness for a better, happier life in the future

Accept that you can never watch porn again, as of now, porn doesn't exist anymore, it's not an option for you to watch it anymore.

Accept that porn won't feel good, it's the root cause of your depression.

Accept that whenever you masturbate, you are choosing your hand over your girlfriend who loves you and wants to connect with you, yet you deny her this because you don't have the willpower to stop.

Accept that nothing, and I mean nothing, else matters except rebooting and getting this addiction behind you.

Don't compare yourself with others, FUCK others, this is you, your life, no one is going to live it for you, you got one shot at life and you're not getting any younger so act NOW.

If I sound harsh, then that's just my anger at how the porn industry has made yet another soul depressed and hopeless. You're 25!!! You're supposed to be full of life!
Get up on your feet and beat this addiction and move on with your life no one's stopping you bro, only you can change don't let porn beat you!

BackToManhood · May 12, 2016

Thanks a lot for all of the encouragement, guys. You've given me the push I need to get back in to NoFap. Before reading your posts, I wanted to do NoFap, but I wasn't about to change any of my habits. Now I am. It's morning here right now, I've exercised and had a cold shower and it looks like a beautiful start to my first day free from PMO. I know now that I can do this.

g2stop · May 12, 2016

@golgo13 great advice

traveller22 · May 12, 2016

I had a 7-month clean streak where I was levitating above the ground - I was so happy. I then relapsed & totally crashed. The disappointment in my self caused me to give up for a long period & just binged when I felt like it.

The hole got deeper & it only started to turn when I made the decision, "This can't go on!".

See the remaining 2+ months before you move as training. Start today. How fit are you? Get fitter! Treat this time as getting ready to shack up with your hot girlfriend!!!

Aim to arrive there clear headed, fit, motivated, more confident & ready to give her the pleasure of your wood.

You need to re-frame & see this as a challenge - just the sort of challenge you need as a man, as a warrior.

Decide to do it & START!

Post your plan here - it will help build accountabily.

If not now, when?

Power!

T22.

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