Still sceptical

You can, but not as severely. Porn is definitely not merely people being filmed. Porn is far more artificial. Pornstars do not truly crave every little dirty fetish, but just make a career through acting and sex. Porn sex is not like real sex. The positions and intensity are altered. The "reality" porn is tge furtherest rhing ever from realoty. Therefore porn has the greater effect on altering your bodies natural ways, but you can indeed develop a sex addiction and other sex-related issues from regular sex.

 

To some extent yes. However, the big difference is with online prn you can instantly click from one to another to another to another and you condition you brain to constantly seek novelty, in a way not possible in real life. Instant reward for the next thing with no (perceivable in the short term) risks or downside. It's classical conditioning, ring the bell the dog drools. (Look up Pavlovs dog if you aren't familiar)

 

Hey MattRyan.

I'd highly recommend that you spend some time reading @ yourbrainonporn.com - I think you will find a clear articulation of the differences between real sex with your girlfriend & PMO, when it comes to wiring the brain, influencing the production of dopamine etc.

Lets face it, we're not here because we can't stop wanting sex, having sex - or thinking about having sex - with our partners are we?

Sex with our partner is to PMO, what multi-vitamins are to crack cocaine.

Check out YBOP & let us know what you think.

Power!

T22.

 

It's natural to get a LITTLE desensitized by a regular partner, but the natural effect of that is just that you don't have sex as frequently after a few months as you do at the beginning of a relationship. And avoiding porn will free up your sex drive for your partner. Having a healthy relationship will also help keep the sex good.

As for doing weirder things or looking for other women, as other pointed out, the big difference is that with porn you instantly have access to something new and different, so you start chasing that newness faster, and eventually can't be satisfied by the same old thing. But if you don't feed that craving for novelty, you can rewire to crave your partner. And if sex with her gets boring for either of you, then COMMUNICATE and change some aspect of your routine. Different times, places, positions, speeds.

Once upon a time, I thought that easy access to variety was a great thing. Now I know better.

 

Porn is the same choreographed crap. Masturbation is the same hand. The orgasm is the same hand induced orgasm.

Sex is holding, feeling, kissing. With respect to actual penetration and oral sex there are a whole number of different positions. Your body feels the sensations. Two people are trying to please one another. When it's over you cuddle.

If the sex is repetitive, same position, same time, you may become desensitized. But different positions, lingerie, spontaneity, different settings and romance can certainly spice up and keep a sexual relationship fresh and enticing.

 

Porn offers far more novelty than any woman could, instead of seeing one you can look at thousands, in just about any position or scene that you could imagine. So although yes, one does become desensitized to their mate after a while, it isn't nowhere near as "numbing" as porn is. As for how to not lose that attraction over a long series of time I think trying out new things and having some variety is needed.

 

@MattRyan ,

Real sex doesn't make you develop erectile dysfunction, as in Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED).

Yes real sex with the same partner might become more redundant, but its both the partner's job to spice it up. But it won't be nothing compared to the level of nvelty you can get from porn. But at least you are still in the realm of reality. Porn is science fiction. Porn is working hard to get you to die alone...cause in the end, you'll be lucky to live your life without going thru divorces and separations caused by the porn-masturbation.

Even some porn actors mentioned that for the camera angle's sake, the positions are actually hurting the girl inside. You cannot expect the lady to conform to all that is shown in porn vids. That is abuse. So you have to stop watching porn is you want to be satisfied with the real sex you have with your partner. If not, you will compare with something that is impossible to reach. But its also a mirage. Those porn fantasies are much better be left where they are....once you start trying to realize your fantasies, you are like "is that it?", and then you skip to the next one...its destructive.

http://www.fightthenewdrug.org/10-porn-stars-speak-openly-about-their-most-popular-scenes/

At least, with your girlfriend you share life together, good and bad, vacations, ups and downs...porn ditches you EVERY TIME that you release your seeds in the tissue....

http://www.theapricity.com/forum/sh...n-industry&s=f521577b36e437020e31934294be4f6f

At least, with a girlfriend, you don't abuse a human being (if the guy is not a jerk).

I guess its a life skill to learn how to be sexually fulfilled with one person. But its worth it.

 

In my opinion, the similarity between the addictions that arise from porn use and real sex would only involve very casual sex, like one night stands, where you have multiple partners. There is no real emotional intimacy in a one night stand, it is like mutual masturbation, and that is why some experience sex addiction. I think addictions grow when you are just selfishly seeking your own pleasure with no connection to wider emotional, psychological, relational spheres. Actually, it is usually the development of these wider spheres that lead to some form of pleasure. So everything is topsy-turvy for the pleasure seeker, who seeks pleasure for its own sake. He finds himself disconnected, and then a slave to the pleasure principle.

 

I probably would be addicted to casual sex if it was easier for me to obtain. I have a new roommate, and he seems to have no problem bringing/going home with two or three different women a week. I am glad that I will be living by myself soon, where I don't have to see that kind of thing.