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Lying

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by IAmSirFapsALot, Apr 24, 2014.

  1. Apr 24, 2014 #1
    IAmSirFapsALot

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    After so many years of hiding my addiction from my wife if she asks if I've had any thoughts/urges/triggers if I have I lie and tell her I haven't. She has been so supportive through all this and yet I can't be honest with her.

    How the hell do I stop lying?!
     
    IAmSirFapsALot, Apr 24, 2014
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  2. Apr 24, 2014 #2
    Basic Plains

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    tell the truth. I know it sounds like I'm being a jerk but hear me out. the truth sucks at times. it would suck to tell your wife about your addiction because it would case tension and probably a lot of pain. but if you want to stop lying you have to realize there is no easy way out of it. "the truth shall set you free" is an old saying from an old book but its true. at some point you need to either admit to your secrets or they will be found out on there own. its much easier for you to bring them up then for them to be found out. all in all its going to suck either way but be strong.
     
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  3. Apr 24, 2014 #3
    salvage

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    Sir, I mean to sound supportive, but the best way to stop lying is to quit PMO. Do it for yourself, and your wife. We are here to help you every step of the way. Then you won't have to lie anymore, it will be a glorious day, and I shall wait here on this forum until you can share that victory with us.
     
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  4. Apr 24, 2014 #4
    IAmSirFapsALot

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    I don't watch porn, I would sexualize women around me (no matter what they looked like)I haven't MO for over 9 months. It's the urges/triggers/thoughts that get me. By thoughts I mean intrusive thoughts that come with triggers - Certain words can trigger people's faces or scenes from tv/movies not necessarily sexual but with the guilt from sexualizing everyone around me (not now, during hidden addiction phase) I feel so ashamed that I can't tell her the truth about any urges etc that I get even though I know she asks because she is trying to help me through this.

    Does compulsive lying come hand in hand with addictions?
     
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