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I feel miserable - 6 weeks nofap

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by dodoz123, Apr 24, 2014.

  1. Apr 24, 2014 #1
    dodoz123

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    Okay, so I'm writing whatever is in my mind right now, so please forgive the disjointed speech I'm about to give.

    I've been having a lot of roller coaster style ups and downs since starting nofap. It's already 6 weeks today that I haven't fapped.

    I've got exams starting in 3 days.

    I've been wanting to ask this girl out, but I can't due to exam revision going on. I really like this girl and I've had some moments where I felt she likes me too. But I'm too scared to lose her friendship if I ask her out. Her personality, the way we are so alike just makes me want to be with her all the time. I know I sound like a sappy romantic loser saying this.

    I'm also at the verge of losing my streak as I'm dealing with exam stress, flus and colds, headaches and migraines.

    I feel like just giving in to my urges. I'm at a very low point right now. I'm surprised that I'm writing here this very moment.

    Hope I don't give in. I hope things get better.
     
    dodoz123, Apr 24, 2014
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  2. Apr 24, 2014 #2
    Soul Cage

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    Whoa man, harness that! I mean, you've got 41 days on the clock as I write this, and that's fantastic. This girl you like, use that as fuel... If you are really into her you don't want anything screwing that up right, especially not (when and if the time comes) anything sexual related. Don't dampen your energy by giving in now.

    Sure keep cultivating your friendship with this girl, but right now you want to focus on your exams, immerse yourself and channel that sexual energy into that instead (because sexual energy is transferable by the way) then afterwards, go for it, ask the girl out.

    Just for the record, I hope you don't give in either, it inspires me seeing your counter at 41 days.

    You've got everything to gain, stay strong.
     
    Soul Cage, Apr 24, 2014
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  3. Apr 24, 2014 #3
    AnythingIsPossible

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    You my friend, are an absolute fucking hero. You're at your lowest yet you find the strength to come on here and vent! What amazing strength that must have taken! I'm sorry to hear you're feeling down, but 41 days is an incredible streak and you should be truly proud of what you've accomplished, even more so because of your exams.

    It sounds like you've got a nice thing going on with this girl, my advice would be to take your time, don't rush anything, let your relationship grow into something special :)

    You're so strong, and you can do anything, these urges are just thoughts in your head and you have the pwer to ignore them. You can do this pal, we're all behind you! :D

    Wishing you the best of luck in your exams too! :)
     
    AnythingIsPossible, Apr 24, 2014
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  4. Apr 24, 2014 #4
    NotAfraid

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  5. Apr 24, 2014 #5
    dodoz123

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    Wow. I seriously love you guys. I'm hanging on here. This forum has done a lot for me. At least 3 times I've been at the point of breaking in the past 6 weeks. 3 times I almost gave up. But I always left a thread on this forum and I always instantly got a reply motivating me and helping me get back on my feet. You are all the people who keep me going. I can't believe the support I'm getting from all of you. Wholehearted support that fills me with joy.

    NotAfraid - the video is also pretty good. Its a great way to understand the concept of male and female friendship.

    Also Jakob and Soul Cage. Thank you so much. Your words really are helping me right now. I will keep channelling my energy to where its needed. Can you imagine in the 6 weeks I have managed to flirt with girls here and there, I've managed to stay on top of my work in revision and I've been reading spirituality and philosophy books as well as writing poetry. It will get better. I know it will

    Lets keep it going guys. We cannot give up!!!
     
    dodoz123, Apr 24, 2014
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  6. Apr 24, 2014 #6
    salvage

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    dodoz you are doing great. You almost have twice my streak and I know that getting there is difficult. Keep at it my man, and soon you will have defeated PMO and get that girl you want to ask out. Believe me that it feels good to be able to talk to a girl with a clean conscience.
     
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  7. Apr 25, 2014 #7
    Province

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    Try to stay calm im dealing with exams to so i understand the pressure your under, but giving in now will only make you feel worse and lose motivation. You've got a good record don't blow it, when all your exams are done you can try it with her and you will be glad you didn't give into temptation ;)
     
    Province, Apr 25, 2014
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  8. Apr 25, 2014 #8
    NoMadCap

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    Keep Going ;-)
    One Step at a time...
    For one more breath...
     
    NoMadCap, Apr 25, 2014
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  9. Apr 26, 2014 #9
    dodoz123

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    Thank you so much guys. It was a living hell yesterday. The best I could describe it as was some sort of existential turmoil that just let loose in that one day. I was punching the walls in my room, crying, getting angry and just down right suicidal. I think the lack of sleep I had the previous night did factor in to the stress I was feeling. It wasn't as much any urges to fap. More like stress from exams. I feel much better today.
    Best part is I DID NOT BREAK MY STREAK!!!!! :D

    I'm hoping that after exams I can finally continue my streak without all any urge fueling stresses. And of course I'll probably try asking this girl out ;)

    cheers guys. You kept me strong!!! We Can do this!!!
     
    dodoz123, Apr 26, 2014
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