New job is stressing me out. I'm fapping everyday

For the last few months, things have been pretty rough. At the time, I just got out of college looking for a job in my field. After searching at 10 different places and many interviews, I finally got one, but it wasn't what I expected. I wanted to get into the field of horticulture before going back into landscape design/architecture. I mean, I like mostly everything about my new job except one thing: my boss. My last job was pretty lenient; I worked at a library for a few years.

But my new job, however, can be pretty intense. There's so much labor, and I'm moving around all the time at a fast pace. However, I do like to learn about the plants, help the customers, and just keep myself busy. The only problem is my boss; he keeps irritating me everyday at work and it's stressing me out. He corrects my mistakes at least 5 times a day, is very direct, and even puts down my efforts in front of the customers. It's getting to the point where I'm PMOing more often because of it. I normally fap at least once or twice a week, but now I'm fapping every day.

I don't know how to cope with my new boss. However, I still enjoy learning about horticulture, and I like most of what I do. I'm hoping to work my way up into the company. But other than that, it's just dealing with my new boss that's the problem. And it doesn't help given the fact that I've been a porn addict for the last 18 years. This addiction has never been this hard before. But can anyone relate to this situation? When your work environment is stressful because of a boss or anything else that brings stress itself, how do you deal with it?

 

Well, there's a few things. My new workplace requires me to move a lot, so in a way, I'm getting a bit of a workout. But it's not enough for an real workout compared to the gym. I guess after moving around for 8 hours straight, the last thing you want to do is work out. On the other hand, I'll consider your advice. I should've thought of this idea sooner So yeah, on my days off I'll definitely hit the gym more often. Just to let out some steam.

 

You do have a very good point, but I think I might save it for a later time if I really need to bring it up. I mean, he's not a total dick. Once in a while, he compliments my work, teaches me all he knows about the company and horticulture, and even buys me and my coworkers coffee or sweets. I'll give it a few more weeks to see, but one thing for sure is that I definitely need to work harder to up my game. This is a family owned company, and it's one of the largest in New England. So there's a lot of pressure on him as well because he's the second generation. But yeah, I'll definitely take your advice into consideration. Thanks man.

 

I hear what you're saying. There's a number to things to consider, even as we speak. I took the opportunity to talk to my boss like @grffn said. There was a lot of miscommunication. He was never trying to be mean; the company I work for just operates at a fast pace environment where being slow is not an option. It was pretty obvious, and he was just as frustrated as I was. However, he was just teaching me how to work as efficiently, as fast, and as timely as possible. Once I do this, his expectations of me will be lower, and it will be easier on me. It's a lot of work, but I have to start somewhere. But at least I know that he wasn't be a total douche, but more of a typical boss. He even said a few good things about me, so it wasn't all that bad. But for now, I just have to prove myself once more.

Other than that, I still enjoy what I do. I like helping the customers, learning about the plants, doing certain tasks, and so on. So the pros outweighs the cons, and since my boss and I finally had this discussion, it's time for me to prove my worth. He wasn't being mean, but direct. He was frustrated, and so was I. But things are settled for now; other than that, this is something that I want to do for a long time, so I have to start from the bottom and work my way up just like any other job. I'll do my best to adapt to this type of environment.

 

Yeah I appreciate your compliments. I wouldn't say he's a bad boss; in fact, I think he's pretty fair. Unfortunately, I think because he's pretty young himself, he may have difficulty interacting with certain employees. Him and I don't really click that much, although he does compliment my work and appreciates my presence. But you're right, I will learn something from this experience, and I just have to adjust to his methods of completing tasks. He is crucial about detail. And for the last part, I think all of the pros that I've mentioned is my way of coping. Learning about horticulture and plants relieves a lot of stress, like watering for example. The only irony is that I like everything about my job, but my stress comes from my boss. Either way, I'll find a way to cope.