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Facing your Triggers

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by WHM, Jun 6, 2016.

  1. Jun 6, 2016 #1
    WHM

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    Hey all, so I'm in need of a bit of help / advice. I live on my own, but tomorrow I need to go back to my old town and stay a few days at my parent's house. (This is unavoidable, it's where all my tools are and I need to get some work done on the Jeep. It's also en route to a mini-vacation I have planned for the weekend) The problem is, everything about that house is a trigger for me. Every wall, every door knob... literally everything triggers me there. Just the knowledge that I am there, back in that town, triggers me. I lived there for 13 years so unfortunately these triggers are deeply, deeply ingrained in my psyche. I am currently on day 8 of a 90 day Hard Mode reboot. I do not want my going there to reset my progress. Does anyone have any tips or advice on how to face your triggers if they can't be avoided? I will be in a literal staring match with the demons from my past.

    TL;DR Does anyone have any tips or advice on how to face your triggers if they can't be avoided?
     
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  2. Jun 7, 2016 #2
    GSarosi

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    Best I can say is keep yourself outside in the public as much as possible you are there. I mean you are not going to whack off in public right? Try to keep being by yourself to a minimum. If you can avoid those trigger areas if not again maintain the time you spent there as little as possible.

    Since your old home is one big trigger best is to get what you need, say hi to everyone you want to say hi to and get out of dodge quick.

    Good luck!
     
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  3. Jun 7, 2016 #3
    ILoathePwife

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    Do you have an accountability partner? Now is a good time to get one! Or, if there is someone you have told in real life (I recommend that, because if you can find someone supportive, it really helps lift the shame and secrecy.) ask them if you can call or text them when you're struggling.

    Another thought. If you haven't already, disable your phone's Internet so you can't use it for PMO. Or leave it in your car. Are you likely to be alone with/ to use your parents computer?

    If you have to go there, consider it immersion therapy. You can't avoid your parents house forever. But keep your visit brief and arrange to talk to someone immediately after you leave. Next time, maybe stay a bit longer.
     
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  4. Jun 7, 2016 #4
    WHM

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    Hey guys, thanks for the replies. Some good advice there.

    Yes I have a few AP's and an AP group, I'm set it that regard. I've told one person in real life and it was about the most embarrassing/ shameful thing I've ever admitted to.

    I agree it would be good immersion therapy, but not on day 9. If it was like day 45+ I'd probably be in a better position to face it. Ah well, like I said it's unavoidable as it's where all my tools and workspace are still set up. It will take a day or two at least to finish the work I need to get done.

    What I didn't mention is that I'm not too worried about PMOing there. The triggers I face there are for cannabis. Everything in that house and town gets me depressed, and my go-to solution for depression was cannabis. Therefore the whole social safety net doesn't apply, as all my friends in that town still toke. The friends are triggers as well. That being said, this is NoFap, not NoToke, so I don't expect you guys to be experienced in this area or give me advice. That would be an unfair burden to put on you.

    I leave in an hour or two, guess I'll see you on the other side, where ever that may be.
     
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  5. Jun 7, 2016 #5
    im_alive

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    Take the book 'the power of habit' with you. and read the first few chapters as soon as poss when you get there. You can't stop the triggers but you can stop the routine. If you read it you'll get what I mean.
     
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  6. Jun 7, 2016 #6
    GSarosi

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    AHHHHH.... that really clear things up. I was like how does being in your own house you would go whack off bonkers??!?!?!?!

    Smart move is to just stay out in public so you will not be tempted and get arrested or something if the place you are visiting where it is illegal.
     
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