How does motivation to do NoFap work in my case?

Martial arts?

 

Same boat as you man and I can tel you first hand it isn't ridiculous. I went from talking to 2-3 girls in an 8 year span (yes you read that right!) to over 30 in the last few months after cutting out porn completely and greatly reducing my mo. My new goal is to stop moing completely. Trust me man, cutting out pmo is a complete game changer but if you have anxiety or confidence issues you need to put forth the effort to fix them. Stopping pmo won't reverse them by itself but you'll gain a new found happiness and outlook on life that makes it easy to work towards improving all the different areas of your life.

How long have you been watching porn?

 

Start exercising, and find something you are passionate about. I know the feeling. Honestly, as a man in your position I came to the conclusion that there are two ways I can handle this: 1. I can go on moping about girls who don't like me and make that a centerpiece of who I am. 2. I can try to improve my situation, do what I want to do, and accept that I might not find someone.

Focus on improving yourself, and cut out porn.

Also, realize that there are many, many, negatives about having a significant other. Right now use your singleness to explore and create.

 

Hii katmegir
First up yes you are in a really bad situation but again everybody in here have been or are at that situation in life.
Secondly yes you can improve it and become really amaging. Now i dont believe in alpha beta gamma delta and all that and i wont tell you you will have superpowers and girls will come flying at you but trust me it will be so much worth it.
My advice would be take one or two days and gather enough reasons and confidence and start nofap. It will be hard at first. But youve got to give your best mate. Delete all your porn and get a porn blocker on your computer.
Now what you have to understand is nofap is not just stoping pmo. Its a complete package. Its a life changing jorney. Start by leaving pmo, mo and o and also edging. Next you should fill your day with other productive works. This is the game changer. When you start your nofap you will have a boost of confidence and energy at first. Direct this energy into improving yourself. Join a gym, start meditating, study something, shower everyday, do some house hold work, cook something, read a book, play some outdoor games. Do what you feel will make your life better and also will consume most of your day to avoid having the urges.
Next phase is socialization. When i first started nofap i had talked to zero girls. It was really sad. One day i gathered enough courage to text a girl hi on my facebook. She replied and the conversation started. Within 2 lines i messed it up. It was so embarasing that we didnt talk after that. I felt like crying. I didnt have female friends in my fb so just sent a random girl a text. She replied and it was aweful. But i survived a few hours. I was starting to learn from it. I did feel embarassed and felt like crying seeing those convos but i could see the progress. That gave me a little confidence. Sadly about 6 more convos were all messy and all ended tragically. About 10th convo in and my texts were starting to make sense. Few more practise and i was starting to make them laugh a bit. And it all started to work out. The main thing you got to understand here is nofap alone wont make you girl friendly, but youve got to make that golden start. Its not gonna be pretty mate. It will be embarassing. But you can only improve mate. If you cant text someone you know try texting someone you dont. Someone out of you city, out of your country, where ever you feel confident. You will see the difference in a few days mate. But yeah there is no going arount that first convo. Break the ice and you will enter the sea of gold. After you feel comfy with texting try calling or meeting with them. Now i have a girlfriend and i feel really great. Hope you will have that too.
My main two advice would be break the ice and with nofap fill your time with productive things and change your life.
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Goodluck mate. Any question you can ask mate

 

Bf was/is shy and suffers from social anxiety. He said he had the mind set staying home and fapping was easier than the bullshit of dealing with chicks.
He said all it takes is getting shot down a few times and a lot of guys are like f-it.
That said, he was depressed and lonely!
It's all a lie and you end up feeling worse and wasting your life.
Change your attitude and change your life!!

 

Hey katmegir,

Welcome to the fight! No army wins fighting with just one man, you are part of a team and no longer alone. I will tell you that is easy to get caught in the "delicious suffering" of our own little PMO world. Find something that is fulfilling to you: volunteer at the dog shelter, help the homeless, invest in something bigger than you. In that process you will meet more people and practice all the social skills that you will need.

If you want change, you will have to grow, to grow is painful, but butterflies don't seem to complain much.

 

The only thing that makes you a loser is your mindset. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start getting dirty and hurt for what you want.

 

just quit m all the time, and don't look at p, that stuff will come naturally .

 

Start Exercising and get better eating habits, this will alter your state of mind and make you feel like a million bucks. A girl isn't going to find you attractive if you don't value yourself as an attracted man in the first place. With pain and suffering (no PMO) comes growth, so why not give it a shot brother?