Extreme blueballs right before 90 days!

Cold showers helped my husband a lot. Or a cold cloth applied directly.

 

We decided to do hard mode because we were both desperate to rid our marriage of PMO. We'd heard, as you said, that hard mode might be more effective, or faster on rewiring the brain. But to be honest we're in the process of re-evaluating and deciding if we should go easy or normal mode. Because we made it about 50 days with no Os for him (I slipped up and MOed along the way) by, in the beginning going monk mode (no sex at all) and then we introduced karezza. Which is sex without O. Ironically karezza taught us so much about holding back and what pleasures we didn't even know existed, we Oed together. Now we can't get back on the karezza wagon, even though we both want to. So we need to talk about it more, but I think we're going to switch to normal mode. He's made so much progress and our marriage is healing so wonderfully (it's like a miracle, no exaggeration, our marriage was basically dead) that I'm not concerned that Os with me will damage his reboot at all. In fact, I consider it healing sex.

Honestly, I do think hard mode is a very good choice. I'm glad we did it. Like I said, we learned so much with karezza. And for people that aren't part of a couple, I don't see how random hookups, kinda the opposite of healthy sex, could be helpful as part of a reboot. But not everybody agrees with me.

 

Yes, I'd recommend it for anybody. Both partners need to be on board though. I can see problems if only one does it. For example, since there's no grand finale it can go on for hours. But if one partner does O, after a while he or she will be done and the other partner may push on too enthusiastically.