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500 days sober. My life is sorta better

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Nate008, Mar 18, 2016.

  1. Nate008

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    I haven't been on in a long time. Just an update. I'm on day 503! I've been porn free, masterbation free, fantasy free, relapse free for over 500 days. I'm to the point where my brain seems to be even clearer. I was one mixed up dude. I hope everyone is sticking to their recovery. It's the hardest battle I've ever fought.

    So I'm sober, and feeling amazing about that. The problems I'm facing are the ones I accumulated while avoiding life when I was in my addiction for 15 years or so. Most of the damage was in my marriage. I'm currently in my 3rd separation. I messed things up far worse than I thought while I was.

    We are committed to each other, but damn I screwed her up, and I trigger her easily. My word of advice to you guys. Stop now, dont wait. You cannot possibly understand the damage you are doing to yourself and her (if you are married) she will find out. They ALWAYS do. I had secrets I swore I would die with. Nope. Life doesn't work that way. Don't be an idiot. Stop now before it's too late. And if you don't feel like it's a big deal, then just go ahead and tell her what you have been doing with your free time.
     
  2. Nate008

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    One more thing, never get cocky and feel like you can handle temptation. You cant.
    In the gym, eyes forward. At the mall, stay focused. No fantasy, bounce your eyes. You can do this
     
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  3. Axlrose123

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    This is impressive , i want to go this long , all these things you said on checking out girl , i cant help myself to stop on this one.But the rest of the things you just defined my life ,
     
  4. Axlrose123

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    ''At the mall, stay focused. No fantasy, bounce your eyes. You can do this''
    Billion dollar advise
     
  5. Gladiatori

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    @Nate008 Master Jesus said, "Don't fight temptation, Flee from it". You are Quite right pal.
     
  6. tyobes7

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    Hey Solidstance and congrats for this 503 days :)

    I started the last year a program or I make the decision to stop PMO and in the first time I has 60days without PMO and after I returned to PMO.

    Now I want to restart to stop PMO , I'm curretly in my 6th day But I have a big problem and I want your advice :

    I do not see since 4 days a porn but When I want to sleep , I can't stop masturbating , I masturbate but without ejaculating en thinking of a girl of my class , and that's help me a lot to sleep but I think IS A BIG PROBLEM , so how to stop this bad habit ?
     
  7. Nate008

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    Hey man, I know it's easier said than done, but you have to stop the thoughts.
    It all starts with either letting the thoughts in or dismissing them immediately.
    Bounce your eyes and bounce your thoughts. It's too powerful to fight. So just don't get in that fight. And stop touching your damn penis man. Trying to stop PMO, and "edging" is like a fat person trying to diet, and going into the bakery to just smell the food... you are just torturing yourself, the only result of that is failure.
     
  8. tyobes7

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    Thanks for your reply and your clarification , I know in my head that the GMO is bad for health, but for "edging" etc ... I was about to hesitate I found those who say normal, others not this is not normal, is bad, but your example of someone who wants to diet my clarified my mind.
    I'm 20th day without PMO and I feel dynamic and motivated and even I'm not shy, I really began to feel the change
     
  9. Ikindaknew

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    I fully agree and I take that advice to heart. Thanks 500 days guru!
     
  10. FedUp40s

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    Can I just add to this and let you all know that everything that Nate008 is saying about fucking up your relationship/marriage is absolutely 100% true. I'm now going through my wife wanting a divorce and pissed off for the last 16 years of me neglecting our union. I've been addicted since 30 years ago and, if I could go back and do it all over again without the fucking porn, I would. It has made everything in my life worse. I'm now at bottom (I also just recently lost my job - due to defects in my personality due to porn).

    This is not what life is meant to be. I can't get it back. Don't make my mistake. Don't. No amount of pixels is worth this. You will regret not doing this for you and the people important in your life.
     
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  11. Nom De Plume

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    Thanks, I so needed this right now. I was just sitting here wondering if this was really worth it. Thanks for the words of advice.
    Nom
     
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  12. OpenDoors

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    I know Im late replying, but only just found this post .. Just to clarify .. is this a technique to disconnect you from "locking on" and staring?
     
  13. JourneyoftheSorcerer

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    Thanks for sharing, and it's inspiring to hear from someone who's made it such a long way. I appreciate the honesty about what happened in your life and that you are using it to give others advice and encouragement. I grapple with the addiction daily, hell hourly sometimes. I'm getting married next year and I want this demon of my back and under control. Thanks for you advice I'll be using it! Bounce the thoughts, don't entertain them, no point fighting them get rid of them before it comes to that!
     
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  14. INSANE SMART WARRIOR

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    Hey Nate008,
    503 days that's a very big success I really appreciate it, your progress gives me hope.
    I want ask a question from you please help me: I have false believe in my mind that as I grow older I will be able to abstain from these habits easily( now I am 19 year old). This believe tricks me to do masterbution my mind telling me that man do it you will abstain from this habit as you grow up. So how many age people do this habit, does there 25,30 and 40 years old people do these habits please tell me so that I can shake my false existing believe and I work to abstain from these habit from NOW.
     
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  15. cenaclelove

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    Let me add my congratulations too.
    Those were moving words about your marriage and about not waiting. I feel in many ways like I've only started to live in the past year when I've made so much progress. The lost time is the worst of it all. Even though I had a few setbacks recently, I feel so strong in the progress of the past year, that I want to echo what you said: don't wait. The time dominated by PMO is wasted time, and you only see really how destructive it was once your mind starts to heal and you get back on the right track.
    Thanks again for sharing!
     
  16. pmb

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    I am on a trip to 90 days hard mode to !!! I hope to go all 365 after.
     
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