After 25 years, it's time to stop.

Hello Steve and welcome.

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Good luck with your reboot!

 

Hi and welcome. PMO can be overcome, it just takes the right mental technique. But like learning to do anything.... there will be stumbles. Expect them, but learn from each relapse. Pay attention to your mind at all times, learn what leads to relapses, and then change your techniques until you find something that works.

 

I've tried a lot of different techniques over the years. One that is working pretty well (73 days) is to connect triggers and fantasies to PAIN.

I have a list of all the things that PMO has cost me, and I read it a couple of times per day. When I come across a trigger, or if I am starting to fanticize ,I divert my mind to that list.

A good book you might want to check out is "Awaken the Giant" by Anthony Robbins. He has some amazing techniques

 

Best of luck to you! My husband is on day 123 of his first reboot. He is amazed at how good life feels, and depressed about how numbed out he got these past few years. Getting PMO free is a worthy endeavor, it really is a sucky way to spend your time, only misery there.
The PMO fog will lift, and you will be amazed to feel life again. Keep going

 

I'm in the same boat man. I can't believe its been 25 years for me also. Year after year. Through birthdays,Christmas , and anniversaries I swore to quit but all failures. I'm on day 6. And support here is great. And I've begun to understand that every time the urge comes on I have a choice to make. And I fight to make the right one. Come back as often as possible when ever you are tempted.

 

[QUOTE="Steve67, post: 546574, member: 82180"I'm back. The family is away today and temptation is knocking. It's the closest I've been to failing since signing up.[/QUOTE]

I agree, when my family is away, it is an easy time to sit at my computer and indulge in porn. I am just starting on this journey, so I hope I can find something else to do. Unfortunately, sometimes I look forward to them being away, so I have time to do my favorite activity: PMO. Crazy, eh. Then I feel like a mess because I wasted so much time.

 

I agree, when my family is away, it is an easy time to sit at my computer and indulge in porn. I am just starting on this journey, so I hope I can find something else to do. Unfortunately, sometimes I look forward to them being away, so I have time to do my favorite activity: PMO. Crazy, eh. Then I feel like a mess because I wasted so much time.[/QUOTE]
My husband got so stuck in that cycle, and sometimes when plans would change and we wouldn't go away he would be mad, and then mad at himself for feeling that way, and then encouraging me to take a run, get out of the house, then he would PMO, then feel worthless, he hated the time wasted, he said, I have seen it all, nothing new out there, but he couldn't stop, it was controlling him, he did not see a way out, just hit rock bottom, feels he would never go back, at day 16 he was like wow, I haven't gone 16 days without M since I was 14, then 30 days, the 60, the 120... I don't know what makes it the right time, how you cross to abyss from addiction to living again, but I think this NoFap site helps. He has cried so many tears for time lost, he said to me recently, all I wanted was to marry a lovely woman ans have a family when I grow up, why the hell did I throw that away for PMO? I think PMO is a powerful trap, and it is hard to get out of the cycle.
Good luck you guys!
And stop wishing your families would go away, that sucks for everyone

 

Don't give in Steve! Take it one day or one hour at a time if you have to. 12 days is a great stretch, don't give it up!
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