90 days done today!

Yes! I made it, for the first time reached the good 90s today. Has not been easy: long and painful psychological flatline, an episode of blueballs 2 days ago that almost made me relapse and a flu that gave me too much free time on my hands.. but I just didn't fap, and i'm proud of it.
Call it placebo or whatever but I feel like the flatline has finally receded (more than 2 months of flatline) and most importantly, that I'm one step closer to what I want to be as a man: Get out there with passion and get rid of my unfounded fears.

I know 90 days is just a mental goal and the battle still goes on a daily basis but today I can face it with a stronger mind and every goal achieved will put a layer of toughness on it.

Thanks and keep on, we can make it.

 

Thank you!

It becomes easier with time along with the fact that when you have been on a good streak, say 2-3 months, it's harder to throw it all away for a moment of pleasure that will make you feel like shit afterwards.
It becomes a virtuous circle: you don't fap, because of that you get more energy and drive, because of that you go out in order to use that drive and energy in real meaningful activities, because of that you get rewarded and your confidence and esteem go up, because of that you get engaged in real sex with real women, because of that you don't fap..end of the circle.

 

Thank you. I feel like it is just the beginning, but certainly having passed the first 3 months struggle is a wonderful thing and can clearly perceive the benefits.

 

First of all you have to realize changes are gradual and subtle, I mean anyone who expects to be a new man overnight will get frustrated and probably relapse because of it. Also it is not a uniform or steady improvement at all, there are good days but there are way more shitty days, even worse than when you used to get your fix to escape, relax and feel this delusional balance masturbation provide.

Now straight to the question, the changes I've noticed:
-More focused and sharp mind, brain fog and shitty feeling is gone. More content in the broad sense of the word.
-Energy and motivation came back. I can actually feel the surge of energy inside me which does not fade away with sex with a partner, quite the contrary I'd say.
-Due to the above, you are more prone to get your shit done, which means procrastination backpack start losing weight and power.
-More relaxed, tension and anxiety losing power. I can even feel the pelvic area more relaxed.
-Sex is slowly changing from this mechanical release fap-like activity to an intimate encounter with other.

All of the above work together to create the virtuous circle that will replace the vicious circle you installed in your life via masturbation and porn.

Now, the vicious circle was fed by porn and masturbation, which has been replaced by the virtuous circle that needs to be fed as well, or else the continuum will be broken, in other words, you won't get very far with just abstaining from the vice, you got to replace it with fulfilling activities, otherwise that place will be taken back by PMO or another vice with equal or worse consequences than porn and fapping.

The activities to maintain and boost the virtuous circle I'm working on are:
-Exercise and sports. I go to the gym 4 days per week. Longboarding mostly on weekends and starting kitesurfing lessons next month.
-Meditation, 30 minutes every single day.
-Sleeping habits
-Socialising. Taking action in convening, inviting people to do stuff.
-Been avoiding other toxic activities: cigarettes; way less alcohol; shitty food; sex with people I don't give a fuck (just for release); unworthy arguing, worry, and stress.
-Having worthwhile and fulfilling sex.

In summary treating myself with love and care, the starting point to treat life and others accordingly. It is a daily battle but I like seeing myself at the beginning of it.

 

Thank you all! 100 days and counting.. it gets better day by day. I do not regret this in the slightest!

 

120 days in.. more comfortable in my own skin than ever.. back into the path of life.
Fapping now seems like a stupid idea, urges are gone and mind knows that the vital energy can only be given to another human being that deserves it who will in turn gift you her energy back.
This strengthens the mind to pursue things, get rid of other bad habits, respect yourself and become a better man.