I have some questions to ask.

I have been looking up some stuff lately regarding my ED and PE and I can also "proudly" say im a huge porn addict. A couple of months ago i tried to just go with it, but it is a lot harder than I thought.

I still have a lot of questions which i can not figure out or are never/barrly asked. I would like as much detail as posibily can. If you can answer it in a short sentence that is fine too.

(Please use the numbers infront of my question in your reply so i can follow every answer easier).

Questions related to porn imagery and masturbation :
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1. I have a tumblr account and I follow numerous of blogs. Including porn blogs. Both on my dash certain porn photos, gifs and videos are passing by. My GF and I some times send them to each other to set a certain "horny mood". Is it allowed to see porn images and gifs (just shortly with no masturbation or anything) or just no porn related thing at all? (Scrolling through).

2. Am I allowed to masturbate without the use of porn? If yes, how often is this allowed/when is it "time" to masturbate?

Questions related to my sex life :
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3. Is it okay to have sex during the rewire session? Some say yes and it is highly encouraged and some say rather not. My girlfriend and I have sex rather frequent.

4. Am I allowed to make myself orgasm at near-climax by jerking off during sex? (Pulling out and masturbate myself over the edge).

5. Is thinking of porn or anything sex related to get me of a good idea?

6. Am I allowed to masturbate while my GF and I are masturbating just for each other?

Thanks at advanced!

 

1. Recommended: no porn related thing at all
2. Recommended: no masturbation at all
3. Recommended: no sex for first few months
4. Recommended: no masturbation during sex
5. Recommended: to avoid thoughts of anything sex-related
6. Recommended: no masturbation even when gf is present

If you compromise on any of these things then reboot will be delayed.

 

thank you! I hope more people will react too, I like to hear everyone's opinion about this.

 

1. Accidentally viewing pornography is okay, but if it is intentional, then it is not okay. I recommend that you ditch it.

2. Before you reboot/recover, it is not recommended as your sexual fantasies and thoughts will have been contaminated by pornography. After that, it becomes a matter of preference and goals.

3. It is recommended that you do not have sex as the pleasure can be linked to pornography, slowing down the recovery process.

4. The third point covers this question.

5. Fantasising is not a good idea, as it not only slows down the recovery process but it also gives you sexual urges. If you catch yourself doing it, fight it and try to maintain a clean mindset.

6. Unfortunately, doing so will slow down the recovery process because you are constantly letting the neural pathways stay active.

 

Anything that is porn related, whether looking, or fantasizing is not going to help your sexual problems. Get rid of all porn, including viewing with or for your gf.

As far as sex goes, it depends on you and your gf and what you both want. But it also depends on your body. If sex is actually causing more problems, such as the chaser effect, then abstain and go hard mode for a few months. My SO and I are having sex and he is doing ok afterwards, but feels very exhausted the next day or two, but we are both happy with our improved sex life now. It is ok to have sex for some of us bc it is rewiring his brain to enjoy real sex rather than getting off with PMO. That is why some say it is good to have sex while rebooting. Others may have a more difficult addiction to deal with and sex may set them back further than it is helpful. Pay attention to your body the hours and days after sex in order to know how it is affecting you. You may have to go hard mode to feel the most benefits.

I would suggest not masterbating at all while rebooting, don't masterbate with your gf or for your gf. You need your body to become sensitive to sex, not getting yourself off. Masterbating will not help you heal. It is part of the reason you are experiencing ED. Some people are addicted to MO and have the same problems so masterbating will only continue to keep you from eventually enjoying a healthy sex life with your partner

 

You made it easy, no need of numbering because there's only one answer which is applicable to almost all your question and that's - NO! Bro no PMO means no Porn, no Masturbation and no (intentionally stimulated) Orgasm at all. It does not matter if it's in .mp4 format, .pdf format, .gif format, .jpg format or in your thoughts. I believe keeping touch with pornographic materials can be potential triggers, even worse with porn you don't allow your brain to be re-programmed which is exactly the antithesis of reboot process!

Though question 3 is the subjective one, I recommend one should refrain and explore chastity for once. You won't return empty handed.