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Can I get some input?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Kyle Katarn, Jul 13, 2016.

  1. Kyle Katarn

    Kyle Katarn Fapstronaut

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    Is it normal to have the blues on vacations? Is PMO to blame?

    I am 5 days post relapse and I thought I'd be a little bit like this lol at home I don't get this bad but when I'm away from home I start seeing couples together and my loneliness seems so much more intensified!

    It must be pmo. I feel so lonely today :( I would love to have a girlfriend who I could spend time with. But I know I need to fix myself and then she will walk into my life when the time is right!

    Is this all pmo talking??
     
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  2. Must be, similar to any other addict. Once they have gone a few days without it, they need to substance in order to feel normal not high. The reason for the blues is you need it to feel back to your accustomed state. This is my take on it from a neurological perspective. Then again I could be wrong. Experienced rebooters?
     
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  3. it's not you my friend, your not the problem. it is porn, that is the problem. the trouble is your brain gets so used to the high, that when there is no porn you feel depressed, when in reality, I don't think there is really any depression for the most part, it just appears that way, since your not on that high, it takes time to get off of p. don't worry about being blue, you will feel better after a while. try to keep happy though, and just stay as positive as you can. you will be o.k.
    I think.
    :)
     
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  4. newmi

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    You got a point. Porn really has the magic of creating a fantasy world that make people hate the real world. Girls in porn never reject, always willing, hot and sweet... and that never happens in (my) real world. I am starting to understand the source of my depression a bit better now. Thanks.
     
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  5. Kyle Katarn

    Kyle Katarn Fapstronaut

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    ***Update***

    So as of this morning I am feeling a little bit better in the blues department.

    But MAN I gotta tell ya...

    My anxiety levels are through the roof! I have to to talk myself into doing simple things like going to the pool and going to get food. This is rediculous :( this is only day 6 though
     
  6. keep it up, you can get threw it, a few days of anxiety won't kill you, I've had it on/off my whole life.

    meditation helps a lot! You can ignore your crazy anxious thoughts but don't ignore the feelings/sensations, try to get in touch with them more.
     
  7. MsPants

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    You were using P and that numbs all emotions. It was medicating you. Taking away P will heighten all your emotions at first but it will slowly level out to a normal balance when you continue on your reboot. It's just your body's way of fixing itself. It feels extreme right now but you will notice the anxiety lowering, especially when you find ways to fill your life with healthy alternatives. Exercise and yes, meditate or journal when you are feeling anxious. You will begin to figure out why you feel that way and start to understand yourself better as the brain fog lifts.
     
  8. Kyle Katarn

    Kyle Katarn Fapstronaut

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    Thanks so much guys! This is so great to get some outside input!!

    So I decided to go with the family to dinner ;) I am just trying to be the beacon of positive energy and I am already seeing the benefits.

    I have also decided to dedicate a few days of my trip to a convention that they wanted to go to. I am dreading the crowds and all that stress but I know it's just pmo... I am the beacon of positivity! o_O Haha

    I will post updates as it goes by.
     
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  9. Kyle Katarn

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    ***Update***

    Ok so I had an abselutely wonderful evening with my family!

    This morning I took some low dosage anxiety meds that my doctor gave me to help me get through the day. I WILL make it through this with a smile!

    Each day I feel just a little better :)
     
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  10. AnotherWay

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    Glad to hear things are progressing nicely, my friend. Since I've been relapsing every couple of days so far, it's hard for me to say what the effects will be if I stop for as long as a week. The last time I went about 6 days, I did experience intense loneliness. I still need to sit down and sort out my thoughts, but I think that the loneliness feeds the compulsion to PMO and after PMO I feel good for a few seconds and then I feel lonely again. I tolerate the feeling for a couple days and then I relapse again.
     
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  11. Kyle Katarn

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    I have spent a great deal of my life in that cycle man. Obviously from my previous posts you can see that it's an ongoing issue but on that same note I will add that it is a tamable beast!

    I went 6 months from January to June with NO porn and intermitant masturbation and I had so much more vim and vigure.

    This month has been a tough one for me for reasons that are beyond my realm of comprehension. I choose not to look backwards but rather forwards ;)

    Just know that the struggle is WELL worth it! Don't bash yourself and beat yourself up over a slew of past mistakes. That is the single most counterproductive thing you can do. Just try and add a day onto the previous streak each time you relapse and you'll get there.

    As an alternative option you could try not counting the days and just cram your schedule full of hobbies and work to tire you out and see how long you can go?

    Clean your house and organize your garage or go out and trim trees? Maybe try to learn something new like a sport or if you're like me you will quickly start finding repairs to do on your house lol

    I have tried both and the ladder takes me waaay farther :D

    Music man. Music helps so much. I once heard that when you are depressed you hear the words of the song but when you are happy you feel the beat of it. :rolleyes:
     
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  12. Kyle Katarn

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    ***Update***

    Things have gone really well today! I think I am at a florishing point finally. Now I must keep it going.

    I do notice that have had some emotoinal issues. Been a little weeble wobbly. Really happy until the subject turns to something I am not happy about and then I go to tears almost lol I just have to focus on there being a future and a positive one at that.

    This fay was good. I just hope it only gets better.
     

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