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Do I need NoFap?

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by 4tune, Jul 19, 2016.

Do I need noFap?

  1. Yes, because....

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  2. No, because.....

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  1. 4tune

    4tune New Fapstronaut

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    I am a teen, I like to consider myself healthy, fit, sociable, down to earth and normal. I have lots of friends, a girlfriend, and a whole career of success planned out and going great- and I masturbate all the time! It actually HELPS me relieve stress and helps me sleep! Do I really need this?
     
  2. Mistakesweremade

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    It doesn't sound like you need it or gotten to the point where you can be committed to not fapping for several days or weeks.

    Come back when you think it's destroying your life...
     
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  3. care4ameatball

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    To me it depends... If you let it consume your life, if it starts to interrupt with your everyday thinking... If you try to go a week without and seriously can't get past a day or two, then you might need to stop. But if you fap every once in a while, say once a week, without porn, then you'll be alright. Everything in moderation. Don't let it consume you, and stop watching porn.
     
  4. BetterManHopeful

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    Thats a question only you can answer. The best way I can think about it is alcohol. My wife and I both drink quite a bit, but I wouldn't say either of us have a problem with alcohol. We've never gotten a DUI, had issues at work, family, etc. because of drinking. Its just something that we enjoy and I think we do it fairly responsibly. Other people have issues with alcohol though and can't drink any because if they do, they'll keep drinking and drinking and will end up causing an issue in their life because of it. I think there are lots of people in the world who masturbate when they want to, and that's that and there's no issue because of it. Some of us aren't that lucky though and have found that a little porn and masturbation leads to a lot of porn and masturbation and gets to a point where we feel consumed by it, out of control, unable to stop, etc. So you have to figure out where you are in that spectrum and what you need to do. If you get to a point where you feel compelled to masturbate, and want to do it less but find yourself unable to stop, then this is probably something you should look into more seriously.
     
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  5. 4tune

    4tune New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you guys for all the helpful replies! I don't masturbate THAT often though, probably once every 2 days, sometimes weekly, and I rarely do it to porn or anything I just kinda do it alone. I find it actually weird to look at something while I'm doing it. Is this safer?
     
  6. WalkingForward

    WalkingForward Fapstronaut

    Definitely stay away from porn.

    Beside from that, I'm not gonna tell a teenager what to do with his dick. You're welcome here if fapping would become a problem.
     
  7. 4longhours

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    Just don't develop the death grip.....
     
  8. GSarosi

    GSarosi Guest

    If you just plainly wack off without any porn then no. Yet if you constantly wack off to porn where one day you could only get hard and get off only with porn then yes you have issues or going to have them down the road. Then you will probably need NoFap.
     
  9. RogerThat

    RogerThat Guest

    I remember years ago when I said the same things. IMO, the last part indicates you already have an attachment/addiction to masturbating. Best to stay here and benefit from the information before the roots go deeper.

    Just my 2 cents.
     
  10. You are fine for now but when it takes over your life then you have problem.I was around your age I didn't see any harm in masturbating but it soon took over my life.I urge you to give the 90 day challenge a try.You never know if you have an addiction to something unless you suddenly stop doing it.
     
  11. darkenedverse

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    My advice: Try NoFap out. You already have questions about what you are doing, so find out what works for you. Pick a day (or more, if you think you're ready) and try no PMO. Write down your thoughts or just notice them. See where it leads you from there.
     
  12. Victor Mancini

    Victor Mancini New Fapstronaut

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    Dude you have no idea. I started fapping since I was in fifth grade when my friend suggested you can get this awesome sensation when you rub your dick. And obviously I tried it and it was fucking awesome. One day I was playing hide and seek with my friends, then I discovered my father's magazine and porn CD hidden, it was unlike anything I had ever seen. I was instantly hooked.
    I was very social when I was young. I had a lot of friends coming over to my house. I'd throw parties so started drinking and smoking pot from very young age. We were like fucking gangsters in our neighborhood. Everybody wanted to hang out with us. I'd have girls come over to my house. Some of them were naive so I'd play game like hide and seek and role playing and stuff. My objective was to play with their "honey pot", of course. But they didn't had a clue what the fuck was going on. I had sex with my classmate when I was in 7th grade during a weekend in my own classroom, back then me and bunch of friends used to hang out in school during holidays. I played guitar since from very young age and by the time I was in 7th grade, I was a lead guitarist in a band. We were playing Guns & Roses, Metallica, Children Of Bodom, Iron Maiden and other hardcore stuff. We were the shit in our school. Even our seniors wouldn't mess with us. I fucked a girl from 12th grade when I was studying 9th. Life was all rainbows and sunshine.
    But the different part of me was also growing progressively. By the time I was in 9th grade or so I was masturbating quite excessively. The choice of the porn I'd view was also shifting. I'd watch foursomes, gang bangs, rape and what not. And slowly before I knew , I was loosing grades and hardly passing exams. I was already starting to act weird. I started being self conscious and slowly losing my "cool". I still had a lot of friends. I started smoking pot quite excessively and drinking. And I was slowly losing my passion for everything. I left the band. All I wanted to do was get stoned and masturbate. I had a dedicated hard drive just to store my porn.
    Fast forward now, I am a lazy slob. I hardly have motivation to do anything. I still make a lot of money but my efficiency is rapidly declining. I am failing hard in college. I've lost touch with most of my friends. I hardly make new friends, let alone take my time to catch up with them. I have few friends left and we still hang out in weekends. I have beautiful girlfriend who loves me, but she is studying in Australia and I'm beginning to doubt her intention as well.

    Long story short, my addiction to porn and masturbation has left my life upside down. It started with innocent pleasurable act to the point where it has consumed my life. All this understanding about my habit, the catharsis of knowing that it is screwing with my brain and my life, and still I relapse, time and again. I'd promised myself last night that I'd not do it but I just masturbated two times this morning. And I feel like shit right now.

    So dude I think you are way better off without this shit. Believe me and all these people in this forum struggling just to get their shit together let alone thrive.

    PORN KILLS.
     

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