this is killing me

Stop touching yourself, when you feel the urges coming through go out or start doing push ups until you forget about it, there's no other way around it

 

Hey, hey. Just calm down brother. This is difficult for all of us. Non one does it perfectly and progress is not a straight line from where our journey begins, through to our destination. You are already doing yourself huge favours by cutting down on masturbation a lot. It may take a while to stop it completely. But if you beat yourself up and get really stressed every time you do it, it is self-defeating. After all, what do you do when you feel stressed? You masturbate, right? So, try and be more accepting of your gradual progress. Do not pursue perfection. None of us have that ability, just try and be cool buddy.

 

The less you do it the better. Some people have long streaks the first time, some others, like me, need to try a few times to get the hang of it, but it's only when you try your hardest when you really succeed.

 

Masturbation isnt the porblem, its the whole set of PMO. I recently made a rule for myself to abstain for MO, though the aim is to be PMO free. Masturbation often led to PMO in my case, but that doesn't have to be your experience. You can MO, but do it clean and don't 'jack off' in the figurative sense of the term. Don't rub one out and be done with it, take your time (Best to get some lube).
If you jank one out it'll be a replica of a PMO session and the aim is the ultimate release, not the activity itself

 

Yeah, I said that too.

Yeah, I said that too.

Slow but surely, you will wander off into the abyss of pornography. Even I, just now, failed to resist the lure of the sirens in pornography. I managed to flee its grasp, pulling away its claws and have enough room to rebuild upon your failures.

As you're only 13 years old, once you have sex you'll will gradually notice that sex is not about you ejaculating, but rather the experience of two bodies synchronised. PMO is rather about the pleasure that man get after ejaculating, which I call 'the release'.

 

I will lay it out more clearly in case my arguments didn't reach you:
1. Your promise not to ever watch porn again is foolish as you will most definitely fall in to your old habits again.
2. Life is not about 'learning from your mistakes' in the definite way you said it. That is a HUGE philosophical debate for ages, but I dont blame you for this as most people dont know this.
3. If you masturbate you shouldn't be masturbate as quickly as possible to ejaculate ('jerking one out'), but rather masturbate for the experience of masturbation and enjoy it while it lasts.

 

one thing that helps me is to get out of the house. Whenever I'm alone after a long day I think about my old habits of going to the Internet. Thus I make a point to keep myself busy with things that involve being outside of my home and interacting with others. By today I'm super tired and I'm going to the gym for two hours. I may not work out the entire two hours but I might take a class, work out a little bit, or chill in the sauna or Jacuzzi. Then later on tonight I'm going to a comedy show. I know I have a lot of stuff to take care of at home but if I stay at home I might revert to my old negative ways. I know you can do it and good luck with everything.

 

Because we always do eventually. If you scroll through any blogpost about NoFap, you will see that eventually we will fail. Not always, but there will be moments of weakness in which we can't handle the pressure anymore. A spoken commitment to that wont change it.

What life is about, is, as I said already, a huge debate for ages. If you are interested, search on YouTube for the videos of The School of Life and then look for 'Albert Camus' or 'Jean-Paul Sartre', two philosophers which discussed the meaning of life. Let me know what you think if you do!