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Are most PMO addicts introverts or extroverts?

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Ben Jamin', Jun 24, 2016.

Are you an introvert or extrovert?

  1. Introvert

    25 vote(s)
    64.1%
  2. Extrovert

    1 vote(s)
    2.6%
  3. Before/after my PMO addiction I was/am an extrovert, but during my addiction I was/am an introvert

    5 vote(s)
    12.8%
  4. Before/after my PMO addiction I was/am an introvert, but during my addiction I was/am an extrovert

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  5. Somewhere in between

    8 vote(s)
    20.5%
  1. Ben Jamin'

    Ben Jamin' Fapstronaut

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    I was wondering what the relation is between PMO addiction and being introverted/extroverted.
     
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  2. Ted Martin

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    For me personally, I have noticed a change between being introverted when acting out with P and M and now that I'm not I haven't seen a change. I will say that when acting out I felt a lot of shame and when feeling that I did not want to be around people and now that I'm not using P and M I feel much more confident, have higher self-esteem, etc. and don't mind being around people as much. However, I'm still an introvert. For me the way I define that is that being around people drains my batteries. If I'm at a big part or social gathering I come away from feeling tired and exhausted and needing some down time or me time to recharge. That is still how I feel now even when not acting out. My batteries are drained. When I was acting out though I would've not even wanted to go to the party or event in the first place. Now I don't mind going to those things even if I know they will drain me. For my wife, who is an extrovert, she comes away from the same event feeling energized and with a full battery charge an bouncing off the walls.
     
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  3. I'm introverted... but after rebooting my introversion is more comfortable. It's not a defense mechanism like it used to be while I PMOed. I'm not longer introverted because I can't stand the thought of company, it's more that I am just more comfortable with solitude and a small circle of friends.
     
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  4. a3a

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    EXACTLY. When I am rebooting I feel a lot more comfortable like it suits me. Back when I was PMOing hardcore I hated people I just wanted to enjoy the nights alone and escape and it in some form still suits me.
     
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  5. JustinX

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    I am ambivert (both introvert and extrovert - more info here http://www.scienceofpeople.com/2014/12/are-you-an-ambivert )
    I was probably naturally introvert but in past 10 years I learned or developed to be also extrovert long long before nofap.
    Now it depends on circumstances, and people around me if I behave like introvert or extrovert.
    Once I was talking about introvert-extrovert topic with some friends and when I said them "I am naturally introvert", they answer was "No shit, you are one of the biggest extroverts I have ever seen". And my answer was "Yeah, today maybe. But not everyday".

    So please add new option so I can vote correctly.
     
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  6. Red Eagle

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    I am definetely an introvert before and after I stopped consuming P. In my opinion introversion is not a tendency to be anti social but it's more of a form of how socialising is expressed. In today's world socialising is equivalant to going out and partying and having lots of people around so introverts often get a lot of shit for not liking those things.
    Quitting P just gave me more motivation to talk to people but I still don't like large social gatherings. I rather talk with one person or a small group. Interesting conversations usually get squashed beneath the weight of too many people. It's boring to me.

    Here's a great video that describes the difference between introversion/extraversion
     
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  7. GSarosi

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    I am an extroverted introvert. More specifically on the MBTI scale I am an INFJ-A.
     
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  8. Ben Jamin'

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    The results seem like an overwhelming majority of NoFappers are introverted. I would have to agree with the others above that day that they are still introverts when they don't PMO, but they are more comfortable with it.

    I feel like that process happens after only a few days of refraining.
     
  9. I am an introvert. Have been all my life even before I started to PMO. I am far from being shy tho. I can also be very sociable without any problems if I choose to. But most of the time I didn't choose to. I just kinda was sociable initially to make some friends and acquaintances and then slowed down a lot once I had squired them. When I did stop PMO I felt like being way more outgoing and sociable. I like to be a center of party sometimes. But in the end of a day it drains me still.
     
  10. Ikindaknew

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    I was a shy, socially awkward individual that wasn't interesting the girls. Later in life, I'm still a little on the introvert side of things....getting better.
     
  11. Ben Jamin'

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    I find it interesting that you say "getting better." I personally enjoy being an introvert. I might just be biased, though.
     
  12. Ikindaknew

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    It all depends how much social stuff your work requires you to do I guess. I have to do more social setting stuff that I'd like and fight for stuff and prove my points than I was "made for"....I don't like fake, don't keep up with the joneses, and don't care for acquaintances. Real friends are ok, but few and far between.
    so there was a learning curve.
    I would personally feel good about buying a cabin out in the woods and become Grizzly Adams #2. But the wife likes people a little more than I do...

    but all in all, I'm glad I open up a little, I get some benefits from it, including feeling of belonging a little more..
     
  13. larrylarrylarry

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    I am INFJ. My guess is that the majority of people in here are Introverts.
     
  14. care4ameatball

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    I'm quite the ambivert. I love meeting new people, hanging out with my friends, and just being social. But I also greatly value my alone time. I've been this way since I was young. Now, granted, when I was hardcore addicted to porn, I'd spend a lot of my days inside, depressed. But once I started to get happy, I realized that I love people. I love making new friends, establishing connections, partying whatever it is. But I would spend a lot of time anyways by myself, reading, playing. Keep farms, working out or whatever solo activity it was. So I'm just about in the middle. I have extremes at times where I wanna spend time with family and friends and new people and a big group but sometimes I like to be alone or just with one friend or my girl, and relax. It all depends on the day.
     
  15. nfprogress

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    INTP here. Computer use in general is far more attractive for me as an introvert and P is a very natural extension of that interest. My career is highly computer-based and I know that is a function of my introverted nature so it would not surprise me at all to see a tendency toward introversion on the forums (but data is better than guesswork).
     

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