Comparing porn to real sex

It slowly goes away. I watched porn since 6 years old with magazInes til pmo at 10 years old. It was all I ever knew.

When I finally quit and stayed off the stuff, sex got better and better and better I cant explain it. I would try to by saying this - if you have pmod longer than you have had sex, by any appreciable amount of time, I don't believe you have ever "had sex". It is NOT the same. It feels 500,000 times better about 90 days removed from pmo than the first 100 times I had sex combined. It's worth living for. It has me doing dishes, that's got to tell you how much better it is. Before I never would have done dishes for sex lol

 

You'll have to make amend. It wasn't the nicest thing to tell her.

I suggest that you watch this video alone, THEN watch it again, but with her:



and also, you might want to start to do power cuddling (aka the lazy way to stay in love)...

http://www.reuniting.info/lazy_way_to_stay_in_love

And completely stop objectifying, looking at other girls, etc...that is the coolidge effect that is taking its toll..brain wants novelty and is less interested into your GF, its called habituation, or sexual satiety. did you start with her with screwing like rabbits?

 

Stop masturbating also. Even if your not watching porn you're thinking about it.
No information on your sex life other than you're not satisfied. Care to elaborate why you're not satisfied? Do you guys have a strong sexual relationship? Can each speak freely about wants, needs and desires? Good foreplay?
Many times PMO addicts can be selfish lovers with the only goal that is important to them is their own O. Women don't feel loved or desired just a replacement for masturbation.
Does true intimacy take work? Yeah.. You gotta think about someone else other than yourself. BF use to moan about it being a chore sometimes so I think that's a common gripe.
But there are times when we have sex and it's just a quick release for him and I'm fine with that because the night before he took his time.
Sex doesn't have to be Earth shattering every time. That's a big lie.
A woman who feels desired, loved and appreciated is going to feel more sexy and inclined to please you in bed. Period.

 

I makes a lot of sense actually.....cuddling liberates OXYTOCIN. Orgasm liberates DOPAMINE.
There is an awesome book I read right now, Cupid's poisoned arrow, bu Marnia Robinson. There is much of everything you need to know about the neuroscientific aspect of the pursuit of orgasm and its drawbacks (habituation, mood cycles, etc), and the pursuit of karezza, AKA bonding sex...

 

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I had the occasion to develop an online relationship with a guy who's been in the porn business for over 30 years, a performer, photographer, producer, and director. He laughingly told me that if he ever invited me out to CA to watch a porn scene being made, I'd never watch porn again. I also suggest you take the time to read Jenna Jameson's book, "How to make love like a porn star: A cautionary tale." There is also a very well made documentary on the Fuse channel about Veronica Rodriguez and her activities as a porn model, producer, and her success in the industry. It has not been without a price. One girl said she watched so much porn as a teenager, that when she was intimate with a guy at school, she wasn't sure if she was "acting out" a scene, or actually having real feelings. There's one girl on Twitter who has a filthier mouth in her real life, than what she used to say in her scenes. I doubt she could go into Dunkin Donuts and order a coffee without dropping the "F bomb" The more I read and learned about the porn industry and the people who work in it, the less excited I got watching it. It's easy to put on a big show on Twitter and Facebook, but the reality isn't always that good.

 

idk, maybe she's just ugly or lame in bed. Or you are not horny enough.

 

The girl makes a big difference. I don't know if you call girls dead lays, but they are the ones who don't put much effort, lay there, and expect the man to do all the work. Now if you are comparing porn girls to dead lays, the dead lays will fail every time.

That's one of the challenges of finding someone who you are compatible with. If sex is high on your needs page and there is nothing wrong with this, no matter how hot the girl is if she is a dead lay you can only pretend to be happy for so long.

Most girls who care about you want to please you. So start teaching her a thing or two and give her positive feedback. It may sound like a lot of work but after a little time invested, you will be much happier. Yet there are a few girls who don't want to learn and are freaked out at anything but your basic positions. Then you have to make a choice of breaking up or staying with her.

Another problem with dead lays is maybe they had a bad sexual experience in the past and their mind will not allow them to have fun in bed. This is another tough nut to crack.
Be strong my brothers!!!