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Finally Decided To Join The Community

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Professor Rex, Jul 21, 2016.

  1. Professor Rex

    Professor Rex New Fapstronaut

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    I found nofap a while back but finally decided to join the community today. Today is actually day 51 for me without porn, and it was this community that started me down this path of addiction recovery.

    Although I'm 42, it was only this year that I really started learning about the science of what porn was doing to my brain. Before this I thought it was a game of willpower and that I just didn't have enough. I could will myself to go a week or two at most but always relapsed before giving it another go. A more regular relapse was after 2 or 3 days. Then a few months ago a pastor brought in a guest speaker to talk to our youth at church about what porn does to the brain, not so much from a religious viewpoint as a scientific one. And the pastor then encouraged us to more openly and regularly talk about porn in our homes so it's not such a taboo subject. As a father I sat in this meeting with my children and it was like a light switch went on in my head. I realized that my brain had been rewired without me realizing it. Once I connected the physiological things happening, instead of me just having low willpower as the source of the problem, I started to think differently. While porn has now become a regular topic of conversation at our dinner table so it doesn't feel so taboo anymore, and I am trying hard to educate my kids in a way that they can avoid this addiction, my wife and kids don't know that their husband and father have struggled with this since the Internet came and brought it into my home 18 years ago with its big old trap and caught me unprepared.

    Motivated by a desire to have a clearer head and be a better husband and father to a family I love dearly, I decided to research what porn does to the brain and how to combat it and I found this community and read about the concept of rebooting. I felt a hope at that time that had been missing since the addiction started, and reading of your own successes helped me see that I could do this. I started rebooting that night.

    That was 51 days ago. I'm so happy to find that I feel more free already and want to continue this journey of becoming fully free from this addiction. I also feel ready now to begin talking about this with some people who get it. So, I've joined the community.

    I'm not sure what else belongs in an introductory post so, uh, "hi."
     
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  2. Antti Rytkönen

    Antti Rytkönen Fapstronaut

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    @Professor Rex welcome to the forum! It's never too late to reboot. I've been thinking a lot about what you wrote. I've been imagining the situation if my kids watched porn. How should I deal with it? Looking back in my life I think my addiction was inevitable due to the environment. I started PMO'ing almost 13 years ago when I was 15.

    51 days is a strong streak though! I wish you good luck. See you around!
     

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