Ten's Top Dozen Tips from a 150+ day Fapstronaut

thanks man !! im on day 51

 

awesome tips

 

Hello Ten, I reiterated the first two of your tips in my success story of how I reached 60 days. I might just add the "no arousal method" to this thread for the benefit of newcomers and those who keep relapsing:

http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=14525.0

 

Thanks for all the suggestions. I put K9 on my computer three weeks ago and have been sober since. I have been fighting this addiction for 14 long years and was resistant to putting on a blocker. I finally got to a point where I realized I REALLY couldn't do this no matter what I tried. I had to get over the pride of not being able to do this (see SA step one powerlessness). Once I truly admitted that I was powerless I got over myself and put the blocker on. K9 is saving my life. All your other suggestions were also great and I am doing some of them and will add the others.

 

I tried K9 for a while and made an excuse to get rid of it. I'm getting to the point that I may need to install it and set a random password that I'll never remember

 

A friend has my password and I have his.

I would also suggest going to SA or SAA. I think that many of the mistakes that men (and women) make in seeking sobriety is that they never get into a recovery program. If one doesn't seek recovery then they never deal with the issue that led them to porn in the first place.

 

A big thanks for this amazing tips , it's motivational tips ^^

 

Thanks,awesome man!

 

nice post mate!

 

Really awesome applications here - thank you for taking the time to explain these.

 

These tips are great! I came back just to read them again. I hope they will prove to be beneficial for me

 

Damn. As a new user on this site, this post spoke to me on so many damn levels.

The way my brain tries to rationalize my relapses (before I found this site) or play 'tricks' as you describe it- so accurately describes my experience. It's exactly like a drug- I'll tell myself, "I'll just go on for 10 minutes, watch but not masturbate". 1 hour later....

Thanks so much for sharing. Posts like these give me strength to continue up the long road to redemption.

 

Great post, thank you. I'll be using these tips on the road ahead X74. Day 3!

 

great post. In the past I have tried this many times and I failed miserably. And then I start looking at the root of the problem and it was nobody else but me. I couldn't blame my upbringing, I couldn't blame what happened to me in the past, I couldn't blame the girls who rejected me when I was in high school, I couldn't blame my parents not understanding the culture that we lived in, I couldn't blame my small stature when I was younger, I could've blamed anything or anyone but myself. And then I accepted what had happened to me because different people have a different history and there's no perfect history.

Then I start looking at the root of the problem and how to go about it. The biggest determining factor for me was why I needed to stop watching porn. And the answer to this question was I don't want to die a lonely old man still watching porn. That image is so horrifying for me. I would like to find a soulmate and settle down and have kids. That is the main reason why I stopped watching porn.

I can't believe I'm on day 10. This morning I woke up with an erection and I thought to myself life is good. Last night I went boating with my brother and normally we get drunk. This time we didn't drink at all and it's a good thing. Drinking and porn go hand-in-hand for me. Even though we went and environment that drinking is perfectly normal and the diet in the past, this time we chose not to do it.

I can take it one day at a time and I tell myself "no porn for me today!"

Keep up the good work everyone and we will get through this.

 

Had my first reset two days ago, thought the 90 day challenge was going to be easier for me than it really is. Just wanted to say, and not trying to be hyperbolic, but this is the most helpful post that I've. Hopefully I'll be smart enough to go back to it when times get tough.

 

This is really good! I am adding this to my bookmarks.
Keep the fight on everybody! We can all do it, we can reach our goal!

 

Hey, quick question- I've used this method before. What would you suggest I do in order to make sure I cant uninstall it? Ive tried locking myself out of uninstall by creating an impossible to remember password for the admin key (this is for k9 web protection), and I also did the same thing with the email I used for K9... But what I end up doing is using an alternative software to forcefully uninstall it.

I recognize that this is my own doing, but that's kind of the point. My PMO addicted brain still found a way, I had even factory resetted my computer before just to rid myself of K9 before I knew about the alternative program. This of course took a lot of effort and patience. I've come to terms with the fact that this addiction is severe.


Could you, or anyone else, perhaps, provide some ideas as to how I could lock myself out further? Maybe a better program than K9?


I REALLY want to beat this thing, and I have a good streak going right now. I know how much that doesnt mean shit though, because you can fall at ANY point. Its scary to consider that..

I dont want to fail.