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180(6 months) Nofap. I dare you!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by TheDancingPotato, Jul 14, 2016.

Start the challenge now?

Poll closed Jul 15, 2016.
  1. Yes!

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  1. TheDancingPotato

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    I've been struggling with nofap for at least a year. My best "record" is about 3-4 months without masturbating or watching porn. Then i somehow chose to *&%@ up and everything went down. When I've reached 4 months i felt like a king and my life was much better(since I've got 4 girlfriends in that time period and besides, I was always positive and happy, no matter what) .Since then i did nofap for 3-4 weeks then fail, 1 month(Nice, huh?) and then fail again. My honest advice is once you chose to do nofap you should never think of going back, because even if you did it for 7-8 months straight you can still fall in that trap and get back to your old habits (it's not worth it, believe me!). Another advice is to always seek to be more sociable (start small talk with strangers and always try to be more positive) because I personally fapped only when I had low self-esteem and when I just felt lonely (guess I was seeking some kind of acceptance from porn and fapping).
    Hope Mr. Boredom didn't bored you too. No? Are you sure? Let's do something about this, I propose you to take on a journey with me and others. You are not alone in this, your failure reflects in all of us too and your success represents us. So, let's do a nofap challenge, a 6 months journey!
    Hope we will learn from one another and this thread will serve as our diary.
    I hope we call today day 1 !!
    (also please excuse my english, its not my mother language and I'm trying my best)
    Yours,
    TheDancingPatato
     
  2. TheDancingPotato

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    Some wisdom for those in need,


    I think being successful in your nofap it's all about being a real men (who has lovely relationships with his family and his friends) vs being an ex-man (no not a x-men who is a mutant with superpowers but rather someone who thinks that he needs to be alone and who does not want to face his fears because it's unusual to break your comfort zone). The truth is that your fears are like wolves, run and turn your back on them and they are going to hunt you down but, face them , take a torch or try and appear larger and scare them, so they lose all confidence. Then you will be left unharmed, friend.
     
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  3. BZN

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    Very strong message here. especially the man vs x man. Will take that to heart.
     
  4. TheDancingPotato

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    Thank you for your reply and I'm glad to hear that my post helped someone (that's one of the main reasons why I m here). Funny thing, I actually got that quote from a dream ( that's why I posted it at 3:06 am ).
     
  5. Soccer14

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    Hey TheDancingPotato,

    How is the meditation practice coming along? Glad to see your streak is still in tack.

    Take care,

    Eric
     
  6. TheDancingPotato

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    Hello Eric, glad to see you checked out my challenge post. Well I usually do it for only 10 minutes a day but yesterday I managed to do it for 30 minutes. It makes me feel more calm and grounded and it's also a boost for my confidence. I also start cultivating self-love by saying kind words to myself every day (every hour actually) and I honestly think you should try this practice. It may sound like narcissism but it works just as good as meditation and the biggest benefit of it it's that you stop caring what other people think of you and you don't feel like you need approval from others anymore. Thanks again for replying me here, and I will update this journal only weekly (every time I make 7 days). Meditation + self love and I did not even had a single urge only some thoughts that vanished very quickly. How is it with your no PMO until now?
     
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  7. Soccer14

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    Hey TheDancingPotato,

    I do practice a kind of self-care meditation that you spoke of. There is a meditation practice of this kind, called, "Metta Meditation" or sometimes, "Loving Kindness Meditation". You can find one such guided meditation in one of the links I sent you. I agree, it is tremendously helpful in many ways.

    My no PMO is going well. No problems and I'm noticing some positive behavior adjustments; like refraining from google searching attractive women or checking out descriptions of movies on Netflix that have attractive women on the front. I'm also working a lot on my ability not to check out women in public and objectifying them by saying something like, "Wow, that women is gorgeous" or "...has amazing ___." etc...etc... One thing I've found helpful in these situations is when I do notice myself checking out a women in public (I live in a city...so unfortunately, they're all over the place...and it's especially difficult in the summer...) I say to myself, "May I be liberated" which for me means, "May I grow to become a better person who is not controlled by sexual cravings and can see women for more than their sexual attributes." I've found this exceedingly helpful.

    I an constantly weary of becoming too confident in my progress and slipping a little here or a little there...it's a tough thing to keep in check.

    I'm glad to hear your streak is going well and that you're finding benefit in meditation. Keep them both of.

    Best,

    Eric
     
  8. TheDancingPotato

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    You are now about to witness the power of nofap and trusting yourself

    7 days and I m x7 better than ever before !
    I won't lie those 7 days had passed slower than I anticipated but I learned a lot since I started no PMO (btw it's been 8 days since I joined nofap .com) and it was definitely worth it. This amazing journey taught me that fears aren't even close as the way we perceive them, they are just illusions created by us and us alone.
    It's not day 180 but its still a week. It seems like Mr. Carrot has 1 question left for me, well let's make this public...
    Why did you chose to do no PMO and what superpowers do you have now? (It's kinda weird that I am hallucinating and start asking myself questions, I think this is due to the full moon)
    Well, thats an interesting question Mr. DancingCarrot. I chose to walk this path because I felt like a dirty, wet boot, I felt useless and I had no desire for social interaction as I do now. The girls Mr Carrot, those alien like being (that I did not understood but always objectified and never cared about their personalities as much as their hot bodies) .... they were scary and not because they looked like headless centaurs from the 9th hell dimension near the cosmic bridge of Tralalalaland . But because I used to give a damn about their looks.
    Lucky for me that I chose this path and now I really don't give a damn about their looks and I finally see how many hot girls are dumb and on their way to get dumber and also they are gifted with some of the most ugly personalities I have ever saw. Keep something in mind, they are like this because of the guys who allow themselves to fall for them and get into relationships with them and after a time, start providing money, affection and more money.
    But enough of that! Confidence and High self-esteem are the 2 key words here. I feel so confident that I finally chose to start wandering alone trough my town very late at night (because I felt like it). While I m walking I m making eye contact with every girl I see even if they have a bf which of course I made eye contact with too and start smiling ( hope I didn't break any relationships). Sorry mate! I swear I don't know her! Guess what? My walking style changed too, now it's chin up and it looks very confident. So, as I was walking I see 1 guy demonstrating his fellow friends how to fight (they weren't fighting, the guy just talked very loud of how good he is and how he knocked Mr. Cucumber out, wow over x9000 power level, much doge). Normally in this situation I would walk on my way but try not to get to close to him or look him in the eye but with my super confidence I just walked straight up to him and at 3 m distance I looked him in the eye and saw his confidence fading away as I get closer and closer. Suddenly everyone stops and looks at me numb as I continue on my path.
    I would also want to empower the fact that no PMO means not objectifying woman anymore. I go to the gym, ok? I see tons of good looking females, usually the fitness type and I used to stare at them like a creep. Now, I don't even care (my libido is lower than before) and I just concentrate on my workouts which are more intense than ever before (feel not the iron in your hands but the steel in your body, damn testosterone is higher than Snoop Dogg on a Saturday night).
    Probably the most important change that I've experienced is my opinion about myself which is of a confident man who is not afraid of expressing his opinion about anything. I finally started to love myself and stop caring what other people may think of me, life it's not acceptable, it's finally enjoyable.
    Lastly, I don't know how but females are noticing me and they give up positive response to me more than ever before.
    That's it mate, I know you may say that this post is too long but keep in mind that I update this thread weekly not daily.
    Thanks a lot for reading and do continue to be amazing, brother! I know you are!
     
  9. TheDancingPotato

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    Glad to see that we'll fight this addiction together, stay strong!
     
  10. Soccer14

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    Congratulations on your 7 days streak, TheDancingPotato! Glad to hear you're feeling great. One thing I always struggle with when I reach a new streak is keeping humble. I always think, "Oh man, this is easier than I thought!" and then I start letting my guard down a bit. I've found a good way to keep humble and focused is to read some of the posts in the "Reset and Relapse Reports" forum. I'm always humbled to read about people who have made it 100+ days and then they relapse.

    Be proud of yourself, take note of what worked and what feels good, and then prepare to keep working! Best of luck, and again, congratulations.

    Eric
     
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  11. TheDancingPotato

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    Thanks for the reply, our work never ends!
     
  12. TheDancingPotato

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    My second week


    I will be quick. This second week I have learned that I m a addicted to technology (I spend to much time on my phone and my pc). Today is my first day of "technology fasting". I will be honest here no PMO is much more easier for me than this. I used to surf the web(yt,fb and other sites) on my pc/phone for a minimum I think of 6,7 maybe 8 hours a day. I m allowing myself to use the phone only for calling or texting (uninstalled my fb, yt and all of my games). I use the pc only for about 30 minutes to 1 hour a day (if necessary, for example if I've achieved 1 week of no PMO I will post here or if I have a project, but if I don't than I will not use the pc all day long). I also, uninstalled from my pc every single game and I have blocked fb. It's not easy but it's day 1 and I m already am a different person.
    Now I have so much free time that I finally started studying (at my own initiative and I like it), I m walking everyday trough my town and I m cleaning my room and the rest of the house. The most impressive difference I have noticed is the urge to talk to random people with no interest in the middle, but just because it seems fun. Now, I can easily talk to a random girl like I know her for years. I m not afraid to tell people how I feel about them anymore.
    Sorry for my mistakes and I still have so much to share with you guys, but I won't cheat in my fasting from technology.
    No PMO and you guys made this possible. If you break one addiction the others will fall too, it's the domino effect.
     

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