Is lusting over a women in your imagination not the same as watching pornography?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ArCubed, May 4, 2014.

  1. ArCubed

    ArCubed New Fapstronaut

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    Is it not?


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  2. Basic Plains

    Basic Plains Fapstronaut

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    I would agree with anon that it is the mindset that we have to worry about. also fantasizing can be a real trigger for most people and therefore should be avoided.
     
  3. Alexander_D

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    Lol I hate to disagree Anon, but a 'sexually oriented mindset' is a fundamentally natural thing which should lead to very good things. But like anything, it can be twisted, wasted and lead to bad things; a PMO addiction being the prime example.

    It's completely useless and harmful to wage war on your own thoughts about sex. A sexual thought is mostly beyond our control; I cant walk through a mall/shopping center without having several. But I dont go home licking my lips and rubbing my hands thinking about it all, lol. That would be lustful and is a small stepping-stone away from PMO. You've gotta just make peace with the fact that these thought will always fly past you, but you have complete power over your actions. Keep walking and pick your battles wisely.
     
  4. Blackmilk

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    There is a difference between seeing a woman and appreciating her beauty and oogling and/ot fantasizing about doing degrading things to her. No matter what she is wearing she has not given you permission to do that. She is not there for your pornographic fantasies.

    Porn is in the eye of the person. If you look at a man/woman for your sexual gratification then you are seeing them as porn.
     
  5. Sufficient Grace

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    I agree black milk. On my healthiest days I can see a beautiful woman and appreciate her beauty in a way that is non lustful, and indeed life affirming. I feel happier and enriched for that experience of beauty.
    On other days it is a much less healthy response. Objectified and for me simply leading to frustration and stupid fantasies.
    It is a very fine line, and one I need to be attentive to every day.
     

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