NoFap's Official "Abstain August" Challenge!

• Are you not going to allow yourself to masturbate? View porn? Orgasm whatsoever? Not allowing any outlet for sexual release is called "hard mode". Hardest difficulty I can muster (Hard mode, absolutely no PMO [Well, unless the O is achieved with a partner]).

• How long do you want this challenge to last? By default it is one month, but 90 days is recommended for rebooting. 90 days, then past that all the way to 180 days.

• What are your goals? To be more productive, and find the balance I've been missing since I was 11. And never to be ashamed of my performances (ya know what I mean?).

• Why are you doing this? I'm sick of porn, and I feel helpless. I want to regain self control and exercise my WILLPOWER.

Can I sign up for the rest of this month, I am ready for it.

 

Good luck, Jeroa!

 

After 65 days I realised. That was 3 weeks ago and I've used off and on during that time. I'm starting to see it's my relationship w/ P. What I want or "think" I get from it. It never fails me. Yet it leaves me in the same place. Abandoned... I abandon myself when I use. And in that I abandon everyone else.

And the question arises, "Who would I be w/o P?

Ending a relationship is scary. That's what I'm doing. Ending my relationship w/ P. I'm scared. That's the good thing, I'm feeling. Non numbing out by using. Staying in the P fog.

I'm here with you thru August and beyound.

 

I just joined the community. I'm on day 7 of my current reboot. My goal is to make it until November and re-evaluate. This my my 3rd attempt at a reboot in the past 4 months. Let's go August!

 

I relapsed guys
I feel like crying now but I can't afford self-pity (really, I have used too much of it already and I am sick of it as well). Hopefully this is the start of a great streak since there is no way for me but forward (returning to my old habits would be unbearable at this point).

Good luck to those that remain strong and those who don't as well!!!

 

You can try to transform this relapse in an occasion to better understand how it happens, in order to be more prepared. I don't know your history and how you manage your rebooting process, but be aware that a reboot process without introspection and, most importantly, observation of ourselves is generally not efficient. If we do what we do is for a reason; it has a function in our life. And it is by precisely understanding what is the function of your habits, and how and when they manifest (including being more aware of the emotions and thoughts that drive those habits), that you will be able to have an impact on them. Because you will better understand how they work, what they serve to, you will be able to make changes in your life in order to give less occasions to those habits to do what “they want”. You fap when you are stressed? Find other ways to manage stress. You watch porn when you are bored? Find other things you like to do when you are bored. but observe carefully yourself to understand when and how (emotions, thoughts) your habits appear), and you will be more able to be aware when they will appear next times. Observe it by thinking and realizing that you think it happens like that and in those kind of situations, but most importantly, observe it in live, when you can really observe what and how it’s happening (thoughts, emotions and behaviour). And obviously, in those moments, you have to be no more than an observer, not an actor. It’s the basic principle of the mindfulness meditation, in fact.

It's very important not thinking that a rebooting process is just about not faping or watching porn. I think that understanding that is the key to have a successful rebooting process which will transform us in a better person. "If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle". Sun Tsu.

Good luck!

 

I started on July 31. So I am on Day 11 today. I am in !

 

Looks like you are just a day ahead of me and still going. Haha, nice.

35th day for me ,and I have had some insane urges this week. However, I have semester finals going on, and the tension slowly suppressed the urges.

 

I'm still going. Seeing a lot of confidence in myself.

 

Same here, sorry. I was ill last week, just didn't have any power left to fight and relapsed.
But it felt different again ... Something is changing.
Now I'm back on track and got a 10 day streak again, but urges hit constantly every day during the last week.

Anyway, 2/3 of this challenge are done.
Stay strong everyone !

 

... failed, alas ...

 

Haha, I failed too. I was doing so good. A little free time to myself and boredom, and I slipped . -_-

 

Same, I just need to rededicate myself and troubleshoot why I failed. Hopefully an easier september. Good luck to all of you still in it.

 

I related as well :<(
Back to 1 day at a time...
In this moment I'm ok...

 

hey guys only a few days left. Im still going...

 

August 30th is my Day 1. As a result I can't sleep...

I guess ive settled for hard mode. Figured it would be best because of being single and a need to abstain .

I however badly need someone to keep me accountable. Where can I find an accountability buddy?

 

I have made it somehow. Day 31. Abstain August has been successful for me ! My goal was to prove to myself that I am mentally strong, and I feel I have.

As much as I would like to continue in September, I don't think I will. Trying to take baby steps, so I think I will "willfully relapse" tomorrow, and after a few days will take on a bigger, better challenge of more than 30 days.

 

August is over. I did not masturbate for three months in a row, but sometimes I still touch my penis for no reason. A few days ago, I decided to break that habit. I also find that I did not do enough sports this month. It’s all about willpower…