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Thoughts on Fapping without porn

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ds53, Aug 4, 2016.

  1. ds53

    ds53 Fapstronaut

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    I just got through my 7 day challenge. Ann accomplishment indeed. This was interrupted by a great fuck with my wife yesterday. This is coming out from using internet porn for 20 years and I have not gone without porn for 6 six days in a long time. the orgasm was soooooo intense. I am gaining my libido and attraction to her back slowly. In the mean time I wanted to get some thoughts about fapping without porn to take the edge off when my wife does not want sex. Has anyone experienced this or tried it? does this send us in a slippery slope back to porn? Don't we need to ejaculate so often in order to keep from being irritable and tense? I know the decision will ultimately be mine however I am interested opinions on the board.

    Not PMO but MO (have yet to get familiar with the lingo)
     
  2. Mr. Mind Right

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    Like you said, the decision is ultimately yours but I wouldn't do it. Men have this diluted understanding that we HAVE to orgasm and if we don't we'll be irritable and moody...like what? The more sperm retention, the better! Sperm is meant for women and women only, it's not meant for our leg, some tissue or even our imagination! Me, personally I could never beat the monkey without porn stimuli, it was impossible. I don't see the point in beating off, even without porn if you have a wife. Why not have her jerk your shit for you? Have oral sex or something if she's not in the mood. You have something to work with that a lot of men on here don't, like me.
    But, that's just my thoughts and opinions about the matter. I personally feel like it's a lame copout to masturbate, especially when you have a woman to experiment with.
     
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  3. Masquerade

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    You've mentioned that this is the first time you have gone 6 days of NO PORN in your life. So I believe you may end up with PMO if you do masturbation with or without porn at this situation. And its damn true that we dont need to release in order to relieve stress. Work out, meditate, listen to songs or do whatever you feel good when you get stressed EXCEPT FAPPING .
    Stay Well
     
  4. ds53

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    So how do you survive without masturbation or a woman. Do you have nocturnal emissions? Masturbation is healthy in moderation.
     
  5. Rav70

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    LOL! If a woman isn't in the mood for sex it's a safe bet a bj isn't in the cards. That's like effort man.

    You just said the O was intense with your wife. Stay with that. You want sex more? Keep her happy she will be more willing.
     
  6. topdawg

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    Keep your self occupied. Being in one place just makes you urge a lot as your brain gets bored, it will think of fapping. then P. So don't do it. Stay strong
     
  7. Mr. Mind Right

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    How do I survive? Easy, I get out the house and live my life. I'm currently in the process of having 2 jobs and getting back into college. I'm a writer so I write stories and I read a lot of books. I exercise and eat as healthy as possible. When I was fapping, I wasn't doing none of this. I used to spend my checks on buying porn and drugs.
    Women...um, due to my excessive porn abuse I suffered from PIED, thus my initiation into Nofap. I can't even have proper sex if I wanted to because I have to heal 1st.
    Like I say man, to each his own. If you feel like beating the monkey is okay, then do it!
    Me, on the other hand, I'm not! If I do, then all of my efforts will be in vain. I'm retaining my semen, I'm giving my dick a much needed break and I'm much more interested in healing so I can have great sex with women. Fuck a screen and my imagination.
     
  8. ds53

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    You must be young. Congrats on your progress
     
  9. Mr. Mind Right

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    I am, 23, and thanks, it's not easy but I have a vision that's free of PMO
     
  10. andrew.alberto

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    @Mr. Mind Right
    You know, I am still weak against this issue (PMO). But I am with you.
    Feeling good without PMO is so great. I got some problems like the post's writer said about being in a state of no stability and need to just let my semen go so that i can feel "offf" I finally get rid of this feeling "having sex"
    But recently i feel so bad that I want to do like them, i need to have a real enjoy, i have this feeling more than 2 years, some dirty guys publish their naked bodies and they have all the fun beside earning money, and we are such a fool people.
    I know that I am stuck at this stage "horny for multiple hours which leads me to P or M or PM" (I cannot describe like you in english) .. I donnot know how to pass this stage yet. But reboot is something resonable.

    You know @Mr. Mind Right, we as a human can be altered to a bad state, but we didn't be created to be destroyed by altering .. We have somewhere the ability to retain our power. I wish that for me and everyone .. good luck :)
     
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  11. Rav70

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    Age has nothing to do with determination.
     
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  12. Oneness

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    Preach!
     
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  13. Oneness

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    I'd control any lustful impulse when it first starts. Just come back to the present moment and move on with your life.
     
  14. I've discovered when I M without porn I still end up fantasizing about it and in the end I don't think my brain really knows the difference. From my experience I would highly recommend not doing it, or if you do then fantasize about your wife.
     
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  15. It's a slippery slope. Even if you don't pmo or just mo frequently I think you should only be with your wife. But I'm all for doing that as much as possible.
     
  16. cincinandy

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    It's a slippery slope. I've been there. Recently. Multiple times before that, too. I gain some good momentum and the thing I want to do most is reward myself for it because I feel like I deserve it, or that I just HAVE to or I'll burst. But your reward should not be MO. If you already feel great about your current abstinence, reward yourself with more of that. MO will lead to PMO - I can almost tell you that for certain. Your mind telling you that "Oh I need this" or "I deserve this" or "One time won't hurt" are all of your brain's ways of trying to get you to slip back into old comfortable habits because the current habit you're starting right now is VERY uncomfortable.
     
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